My heart aches. Over sensitive?

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I am a month on from a missed mc and the periods of intense emotion are becoming fewer and farther between. Unfortunately it has just hit hard and I am struggling not just with the overwhelming feelings of loss but also the concern that this rather sudden rush will happen for years to come.
I know everyone is different but I'd like to understand how some of you might feel in my current situation. I am really open to honest feedback.
I have just arrived at a very close friend's place to stay for a few nights. She lives a few hours away from us now. She and I became extremely close after meeting when our DS's were born. We have seen each other every second day for 2.5yrs (until a few months ago when they moved) and are very open with each other about relationships, parenting struggles etc. She knows what I have just been through but I haven't spoken to her about it much due to proximity and bc I feel there are no words for so much of it.
While at the park about an hour ago she told me- after asking all about my cycle and the fact is just got my period etc- that she is pregnant. I love her and her family so am obv happy for her but I had an intense desire to run as far away as possible. I couldn't get upset partly bc I didn't want to ruin it for her, I didn't want to be pitied (righly or wrongly) and also bc my DS was there. I am glad she told me as she normally would and but it it so raw atm maybe more so bc our first children are a week apart and we have shared so much of motherhood. I just wish she had told me in a situation where I could have some time alone relatively soon after. I now have to stay for another two days without my husband in her house having to ask the right questions about the future plans (I do care it just stabs each time), seeing the positive test stick in her room when getting something for her, seeing her parents who are over the moon. Ouch. I want to go home to my house, my bed. I want to be alone and allowed to grieve without feeling like a self obsessed me me me friend and also a bit if a fraud (it is only one mc and I do have a son which has def made it easier for me). Sorry total stream of consciousness. Feel all over the place and an left wondering if the fact I'm feeling this all so strongly means I should go and speak to someone before I push people in my life away.

I have not experienced this but my very close friend has one child who is now 8 and she has been trying to get preg with number two for six years. She has had 7 miscarriages, the last of which damaged her one remaining tube. All her friends have had 2 or 3 more and it cuts her so deep when she hears anyone is pregnant. She found it very hard when I had DS2.
So, you are not over sensitive but are reacting in a very normal way. It sounds like your friend was trying to talk about your situation first so that it didn't sound so hopeless for you when she told you she was pregnant. She must have been wondering how to tell you and feeling sick about it I imagine.
It sounds so tough, and I really hope you have some good news for yourself too soon xx

Oh, and on the last bit, maybe you could find some kind of organisation that deals with miscarriage who you could talk to over the phone? I talked a lot to APNI when I had PND and it really helped. Google helplines for miscarriage.

Ouch. I think that one is always a bit of a knife in the guts when it's still so raw, no matter how much your head wants to be happy for the person. For anyone reading who is the pregnant friend, I would always prefer to be told at a distance, preferably in an email or text, so I have time to bawl my eyes out and have prepared my "happy face" for the next time I see you.
Probably she has been worried about how to tell you and just blurted it out. If she's a good friend I think you need to have a chat about how although you are happy for her, this is going to be difficult for you when you are still hurting from your loss and that she mustn't take it personally if you need to take a step back from baby-talk. She's happy and providing it all continues to go well, probably nothing you do will dent that happiness, but you are grieving and your needs are important too.
It can be done with grace if you are both sensitive to the other, I had a friend that was pregnant with almost the same due date as my first MC and we managed to get through it with friendship stronger than ever. It helped that she had prev miscarried so had a good idea how I was feeling. I always get a bit of a pang when I see her daughter, but it hasn't spoiled the friendship.

You sound like a lovely, understanding person. Your pain is COMPLETELY normal and it sounds like you're aware of why it's there and also trying to be there for your friend. Just remember she has people round to support her, so if you need 'time out' just take it! Better to see her in small doses and be happy with her, than feel the need to be there loads and end up resentful or saying something scary to her about MC (which are my fears with preggers friends).
The Miscarriage Association has a good phoneline. I have used them during tough times. Google it. :)