today I am really really cross

[nearlyreadytopop]

Thats about it really. Three lost babies in the past year, 32 weeks of pregnancy and nothing to show.
I have had one successful pregnancy so why the frig can't I do it again?
I detest the line " its just bad luck" it makes me feel stabby.
Today I have shouted at dh and ds for no reason. I hate how I'm behaving but I can't get a hold on myself.

Oh, I'm so sorry about your MC's

I've lost four in the last 2 years, one very late, I've been pregnant for over a year in the last 2 and no further forward....its just shit isn't it?

yy to 'its just bad luck' making you feel stabby. My rmc consultant says 'its just a roll of the dice each pregnancy' which I find equally outraging...no its not, its a baby...

Sometimes I think I'm just going to run out down the road screaming and screaming as how can I not??

It is very, very hard

I don't know what the answer is, just wanted you to know you are not alone

thank you, in rl people around me are just popping the babies out. I wouldn't wish this hell on anyone but it helps to know others feel as cross as I do.

nearly and Arm I know how you feel, I've had 4 MC and felt like I was either pregnant,miscarrying or recovering from a miscarriage most of last year.It is hard,especially when so many friends,colleagues and celebs are getting pregnant and having babies all around you. x

TeamEdward you sound like a very caring SIL.
The Miscarriage Association website has some downloadable leaflets which are really useful,there's a good one for family and friends of someone who's lost a baby and it outlines the things not to say and how to help.
Nothing you can say is going to take the pain away for your SIL but it really helps to know people care and acknowledge the loss.
She may want to talk about it ,she might want to talk about other things or she might want time on her own.
Sometimes just a hug helps.
All you can do is tell her how sorry you are and let her know you are there for her, not just at the time but weeks/months down the line and especially around the time of the due date. I found some of the people who were sympathetic at the time expect me to have recovered after a period of time and be back to normal. You do learn to cope and you carry on but the pain is still there, it's comforting when someone still remembers.

Me too. 3 MC in the last 10m and 4 in total and I'm really angry and feel cheated. I burst into tears in Sainsbury's cafe today talking to my friend about it and she asked me what I was angry about, and it's just everything, isn't it? My stupid body that is killing my babies, the ease with which everyone else seems to pop them out, the medics who have nothing to offer but platitudes, that 70% statistic everyone trots out all the time
I know it's just a phase of grieving and most of it is not at all rational.
My sympathies to all of you who have had to go through this over and over again.

Yup, same here. ANGER.

Constant resentment at the universe and my stupid body which hid this disability as I see it - I mean I've always had normal periods etc' no clue till now- grrrrrrrrrr. Like a horrible secret cruel joke.