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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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brec247 · 09/07/2013 21:55

Hi I'm new on here and just wanted some support from people who have been through similar.A couple of weeks ago at 9 weeks pregnant I had a bleed and following a scan I found out the baby had died at 5 weeks.It was an enormous shock as I'd felt fine beforehand.Im all over the place emotionally even though I thought I was ok.Finding the physical side hard to deal with too with a lot of bleeding and big blood clots(one of which was about the size of a lemon)I have another scan in a week to make sure all is well but would appreciate any advice x

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ZingWidge · 09/07/2013 23:01

so sorry for your lossSad

I had a MC 4.5 years ago at 11w+5 and had ERPC. I know it was a girl, I named her Yasmin.

I have healthy children, but I miss her and think of her everyday.

best advice I was given : allow yourself to grieve. every time, any time. any way.

It's early days for you, it's really hard right now.Sad
Don't listen to people who expect you to get over it.
be kind to yourself. ask for help.

I'm here to listen.

big hugsThanks

Irishmammybread · 09/07/2013 23:37

So sorry to hear of your loss brec ,it's a heart breaking time for you.
There's a really good thread on here about dealing with the practicalities of miscarriage, there's some very useful advice and information.
For me too the emotional side seems to kick in a few weeks after the initial shock and dealing with the physical aspect.
It is like a bereavement, what Zing says about allowing yourself to grieve is good advice.
You will find lots of people on these threads who've been through the same as you and know how you feel, you're not alone.
I hope you have plenty of support in RL too. x

Bakingtins · 10/07/2013 07:31

Brec I'm so sorry you lost your baby. It's a huge shock, a physically distressing and draining experience and a bereavement all rolled into one. Be very kind to yourself, give yourself permission to grieve however you see fit and don't put yourself under any pressure to "get over it". I found it enormously helpful to make some sort of memorial gesture ( plant a tree, write a poem or letter, release a balloon, choose a piece of jewellery, make a memory box)
Miscarriage can throw up some feelings that are difficult to express IRL and it can feel very isolating. It helps to have somewhere like this board to vent.
I promise it does get gradually easier.

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brec247 · 10/07/2013 17:20

Thank you for all your kind words and support,its been very helpful sometimes its nice to get advice from people who are a bit removed from the situation although I'm lucky to have a close family x

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squizita · 11/07/2013 10:55

Sorry for your loss. Agree with all above plus google the Miscarriage Association, wonderful charity with lots of emotional and practical support.

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brec247 · 12/07/2013 16:49

Thanks I had a look and it was helpful.Not handling the extreme tiredness very well though,asked a pharmacist today about tonics etc and he reckons they are a waste of time and best thing is to eat plenty of green veg etc? X

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