MMC At almost 12 weeks, just want to try again!

[PinaColadas]

Hello, I wanted some advice and hope some one can help.
Briefly, was 11.5 weeks or so I thought, had very slight bleed, thought all would be ok but went to EPU to be safe only to be told empty sac. Absolutely heart breaking couldn't begin to put it into words.
They sent me off said come back in a week incase I had my dates wrong, I knew I hadn't, and 3 days later started to miscarry naturally. This was awful wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy they didn't tell me at all what to expect bleeding and pain wise, went to A and E because I was so frightened, I was filling a pad in less than 30 minutes and over 10 minutes it was just a constant flow like urine sorry if TMI. Scan the next day confirmed the miscarriage was complete, now here I am 2 weeks later still bleeding.
My questions are:
When to expect next period, is the "4 to 6 weeks" from the start date of MC or from the day I finally stop bleeding?
Also how long have you bled for, it seems relentless,at the moment, sorry if tmi but goes brown, think its the end then comes back red again, just want it to be over

[Bakingtins]

Hi Pina I'm so sorry you hear you are going through this. I think too often the information given to women at the time a MMC is diagnosed is poor and if/when you feel up to it, I'd encourage you to write to the EPU with some constructive criticism of how you could have been better prepared for the reality of a MC at home.
I've had 4 MC at 8-10 weeks and have usually had bleeding for 10-14 days, heavy (and sometimes very frightening as you have described) until the sac has passed and then of period-like proportions and tailing off over the fortnight. It's not unusual for it to be a bit stop-start.
Most people will get AF 4-6 weeks from the start of the miscarriage, though it's not that unusual to have a very long period (up to 10 weeks) before she shows. My impression is that long wait seems more often to happen after ERPC, if your body made up it's mind to MC naturally then that seems to bode well for hormones getting back into gear more quickly. It's usually been a week longer than a normal cycle for me.
When you are ready to try again, there is a lovely supportive thread here for women TTC after MC.

[PinaColadas]

Thank you Bakingtins, so sorry to hear you have had to go through this 4 times, it's so unfair.
I'm finding reading through the thread really useful thanks for the link, and it's really reassuring to hear the natural way should help me with getting my body back to normal.

[St4rfish]

Hi Pina, sorry you've found yourself on this forum. I had a similar missed miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had medical management so understand what you're talking about re. the scary bleeding. I bled for a fortnight (started to go brown after 10 days), then just as I thought it was stopping ended up in A&E (miscarriage incomplete) and bled for a further 6 days + a week of brown discharge. I got AF 6 weeks from the first day I started miscarrying (period horribly heavy with more clots and 'flooding' - on day 11 of this now, normally 4-5 days long) Hope that helps re. a comparison. Know how you feel about being fed up; I am still having blood tests and problems with anaemia

[Kasterborous]

Hi Pina, first I'm so sorry you are going through this. With one of my miscarriages I bled on and off for about eight weeks. Then one night in the bath this solid grey lump of tissue came out. After that the bleeding stopped. With hindsight I should have gone back to the GP but I thought it was normal. I also had a period four weeks after the miscarriage that was heavy and painful. I would say if things haven't settled down in a couple of weeks go back to your GP.

I hope you feel a bit better soon and wish you the best of luck for the future.

[PinaColadas]

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, it's really useful to hear other experiences, just to give me an idea of what to expect. Really want the bleeding to end because its just a constant reminder at the moment, plus I really want to go swimming!!

[PinaColadas]

Thanks katatonic, wishing you all the very best in TTC. Can't wait to get first AF over so we can try again, I was advised to wait but keep reading that it doesn't make any difference, but still not stopped bleeding and expect its too late now anyway! Here's to our future BFP and healthy pregnancies xx

[Kasterborous]

If its of any consolation Pina I had six miscarriages but had a healthy happy DD in March 2012.

[PinaColadas]

Thanks Kaster, the best advice I have had through this is from a friend who has had 3 MC, she said that I can't guarantee that this isn't going to happen again, but the only option to avoid that is to stop trying, and that just isn't an option. Just have to soldier on.
I really want 2013 to shove off now though, it's not my year!

[Kasterborous]

Your friend talks a lot of sense. You do have to keep going if that's what you want. One of the midwives we saw at the hospital after my 4th one had, had six miscarriages then had two healthy children. She basically said the same just keep going.

Hope that 2014 will be your year.

[PinaColadas]

Thanks Kaster