anyone had misdiagnosed missed miscarriage?

[PintandChips]

went for a private dating scan yesterday, shld be 9 weeks but only measuring 6+5, sonographer couldn't find a heartbeat. i'm sure of my dates.

i'm booked into to the hospital tomorrow through my GP so they can confirm and give me drugs to 'evacuate' it. desperately hoping yesterday's scan was wrong? is there any chance that's possible?

if not, how bad is the 'passing' of the pregnancy? i don't want to alarm my 6yo son. Be good to know how long i'll need off work too?

If you are sure of your dates it doesn't sound very likely that they are wrong, I'm afraid. You may find the hospital won't do anything tomorrow, if they have not previously seen a heartbeat then they normally make you wait a week between scans to ensure it's not just a younger pregnancy that has not yet developed a HB, particularly if it is measuring around 6 weeks.
I've had 3 natural MC and one medical MC all at the 8-10 week stage. I found the medical miscarriage quite painful so make sure they give you some painkillers. I found out afterwards that I could have gone into hospital for the duration and had access to pethidine, gas and air etc but they didn't tell me that and I had to tough it out with paracetamol at home. Be prepared for quite heavy bleeding and labour like pains before you pass the pregnancy sac, which you may or may not recognise at that stage. You need maxi/night-time pads and to stay near or at home until the sac has passed, I have then found bleeding settles right down to more like a period. The guideline for seeking help is soaking a maxi pad in less than an hour or feeling unwell or faint.
I haven't taken much time off work, miscarried last Tue/Wed and went to work on Friday, but I felt physically ok and I cope better if I'm busy. It's very different for everyone and the medics would happily have signed me off for a fortnight if I'd wanted them to.
There's a thread on practical suggestions for MC which you may find helpful. Sorry you find yourself in this horrible situation.

Hi pint

To second what baking said so sorry you find yourself here. It really is the pits. I had a MMC at 8 weeks and 2 scan to confirm it. Being a private scan did 2 sonographers confirm it? That was policy at my hospital and it couldn't be managed until then.

I was offered 3 options, natural, medical and surgical. They did tell me that the medical management doesn't always work with a MMC and if I was unlucky I'd have to have an ERPC anyway. We opted for the surgical management 5 days later and it was the best decision I could've made. Body started to expel naturally about 3 hours before op and it was distressing. The contractions were very painful. Bizarre as it was 4am and my 6yo DS woke up and rubbed my back through the pain. Bless him.

I had a total of 3 weeks off work. Physical recovery was minimal (7 days bleeding) but emotionally I needed every second of that time off.

Be kind to yourself xx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/1344311-Tips-for-coping-with-the-practicalities-of-miscarriage

Miscarriage Association options on management of miscarriage

I had a natural mc a couple of months ago. I was around 8 weeks, but the sac was only measuring 5+something. I didn't find it as bad as I had feared. I only had one really painful day, for which I stayed in bed and managed the pain with codeine. I have always had painful periods and it was up a notch from that, but not that far up.

I started spotting on Monday, bleeding like a heavy period on Tuesday, Wednesday was my bad day when I needed codeine, I I passed the sac on Thursday morning, after that it started to tail off. In fact, on the Sunday I managed (just) a long haul flight for work. Apart from the one really painful day, I carried on working. I preferred to keep busy. I bled for around 2 weeks in total and felt a bit week and out of sorts but able to keep buggering on with normal life, just about.