Another "would have been due" date thread.

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I would have been due with my third pregnancy this weekend. I didn't clock it until I was coming home from work this evening.

I have not managed to get pregnant again since losing this one.

I've been depressed for 6 months, really probably longer, since the mc of my first. I'm having a big glass of wine. I think it would help to cry but it's not happening.

Just that really.

Hello Life,

I'm so sorry for your loss and I really have no idea what to say. Except that its all pants and I hope that this weekend passes ok and that you manage to grieve properly in your own way.

Maybe it would help to see/talk to someone? But I mainly wanted to say that I am sorry and am sending you hugs. xx

Thinking of you. Make that a bottle x

Life, I was in this situation a few months ago. It totally sucks!! To make it worse, a friend was due then too and now I see lovely pics of her son on FB and feel happy for her but about seeing him achieve his milestones when my child never will.

What worked for me (and I appreciate may not, for you) was to shift my focus for a while. Looking for new work, getting more involved in my hobbies and starting a health kick, as my unexpected pregnancy started with some not so healthy habits (even though I got rid of them immediately with a positive test.)

It's still tough and we are still trying, I totally get what your going through and I second the whole bottle of (which I can't have as I'm on my health kick.)

So sorry. x

Due dates suck. If you've spent the intervening months unsuccessfully TTC they suck even more. I prescribe a good cry - watch a weepy film if necessary. I really hope by 2nd anniversary you have a baby in your arms to make the heartache worthwhile.

my dute dates not till sept but im dreadind it. im un sure weather to ttc so soon? good luck to you all.xx

Thanks guys, and Shellmuck, it can be hard to know whether to ttc. I found it helped me, but only so much. In the end, last night, I learned that I had a magic OH. After posting this I read through my posts outlining my progression toward mc on the old antenatal thread, started crying, wished OH was home (he was due to be out late with a work do) and then he walked in saying he decided to leave the do early. I kept the to that one glass. I was prepared to have more but I've been pg so much of last year that I seem to have lost my desire to have much. Thanks again though for your comments.