What are your Thoughts Please?

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I had my first mc 15 days ago at 9+3, and it was terrible and traumatic, as we all know. I am having good days, mainly bad days, combined with the fact that as a 47 year old I will most likely never conceive again.

Even though it was unplanned we were so thrilled...would have been our first child together. We never ever thought that it would happen at our age and didn't give having a baby a second thought. But, as I am sure some of you will empathise, now that it HAS happened (albeit early mc), I am DESPERATE to have a baby...we both are. Must be the hormones!!!

Anyway, does anyone give credence to, or believe to some extent in, what I have been giving serious thought to?

When I was in my 20s I was prescribed Clomid as had been trying to conceive for a couple of years. No joy and the doctors advised that I would probably never have children. However, when I was 36 (when fertility has 'dropped like a stone'), I gave birth to my beautiful DD. Two years later, I had my gorgeous DS. Then, at 47, when the odds were truly against us (DH is 47 also), I got pregnant!!!!

What I am asking is, do any of you think there might be something like 'delayed/late onset fertility' whereby, unable to conceive in teens or 20s, you suddenly develop normal fertility in late 30s and 40s? It just seems weird that I was UNABLE to conceive at the peak age when other people can and then ABLE to conceive just when it should be more difficult!!!!

Might give me hope for the future...... x

Anyone? x

Hi! I am so sorry for your loss. I really don't know the answer to your question but wanted to reply. I suppose it could be possible and to be honest whatever gives you hope is a good thing. Plenty of people do get pregnant in thier 40s and you have recently so it is likely to be possible again I would have thought.

Good luck and take care. Things will get easier. I am 8 weeks on now from my MMC and am having more and more good days. xx

I assume when you were in your 20s you had a different partner? If so, I think it's more likely to be the "chemistry" between you. Some couples aren't compatible, fertility-wise - eg Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman couldn't have children together but have both conceived with other partners.

One thing to bear in mind is that the risk of mc increases sharply with age - my SIL is an obstetrician and she told me that post-45 the mc rate is up to 50%. I'm really sorry as I don't want to make you more sad, but not everyone is aware that the occurrence of mc is linked to age and it might influence whether or not you try again (if you want to, go for it, of course). I hope your recovery goes smoothly.

Thank you dk75, you are very kind. I hope that you are having a good day today.

Lurcherlover, I appreciate all that you say and that has also crossed my mind, but I am trying to be optimistic and glean some hope from the situation. I had PCOS, Endometriosis (2 x Laparoscopy), wasn't ovulating regularly, periods ranged from 34 days to having 3 in a year, and certain hormone levels were low (don't ask me which, as it was nearly 25 years ago!!!!). Hence reason I was put on Clomid...which I took for at least a year (I know that these days they only allow a few cycles, but that was how they did it then!!!).

As the years have passed, my body and cycles seen to have settled down and sorted themselves out, and now I seem to be quite fertile, even at my age.

Yes, I am aware that risks increase with age, but have you read the study where certain cultures (including Bedouin) have extended fertility due to chromosomes being present in women who are able to conceive at an advanced maternal age? Very interesting and very possible that such chromosomes are not specifically limited to Bedouin and the like.

Well, I shall remain blindly optimistic and hope for the very best!!!!!

Thank you both. xx