Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

Original poster

Very confused following visit after EPU Unit

14 replies

Louzul · 20/05/2013 11:49

Hi.
This is my first post on here and I am really scared. This is my first pregnancy. I've just come back from the EPU, following a scan. I started bleeding and had slight pain yesterday. I'm still bleeding now. I'm meant to be 9 weeks tomorrow, (my period was 19th of march) but the scan showed that I'm about 4-5 weeks. I have to go back for another scan on Tuesday. I dont think my baby is developing, but I'm left in limbo as the doctor was quite clinical about everything.

I dont know what to do for best. I think I have to be realistic and realise that this pregnancy isn't going to work out. Feel so sad and low.

OP posts:
meow57 · 20/05/2013 12:05

Hi there, I'm not sure how much I can help but I do know how you feel. I've had two miscarriages and each time I've had several EPU visits that have left me in limbo. I've always expected them to know what is happening but they rarely do - not their fault of course. I've had to wait, like you, for a week for the next scan wondering whether of not I am miscarrying. Whilst both time I have there is still hope and this forum was good for me as many people had positive stories to tell too. If the pain or bleeding gets worse go back to your doc, they will give you an earlier scan if you push for it and there has been a change. Otherwise just do your best to get through this week. Really hope you're ok.

gingysmummy · 20/05/2013 12:32

Hi,i'm just also back from epu i should be 7+3 but only showing a sac of about 5 weeks,either i'm a lot earlier on which i doubt or my baby has not developed i'm going back on 3rd of june which is a hellof a long wait

Original poster
Louzul · 20/05/2013 12:52

Its so comforting knowing there are people out there, who know what I'm feeling. Work have been great and really letting me take the time I need. DH has been supportive, very loving and caring, but I can tell he's holding all his emotions in. Just trying to be there for each other, and resting, and trying to process and come to terms. Thank you both and i hope everything is ok for you @ gingysmummy. xx

OP posts:
meow57 · 20/05/2013 13:18

Hi both, gingysmummy 3rd of June does seem like a long time, I've only ever had to wait 1 week between scans.

Lonzul, it was great for me hearing from other people too, it's not until you go through this stuff that you know what to expect. I have felt so awful at times these last few months but you do get through it. Glad you've got support. My husband was great too but I don't think he could fully understand what I was going though. It's such an emotionally and physically demanding time. Best advise i can give - eat some cake and try to avoid day-time tv! x

Original poster
Louzul · 22/05/2013 15:05

Well things have moved on. Lots of pain and bleeding. Went back to EPU and it confirmed that I've miscarried. So sad but at least I know.

OP posts:
Tomkat79 · 22/05/2013 15:10

I'm so sorry Louzul. You will find lots and lots of support on these pages. Keep posting xx

Bakingtins · 22/05/2013 16:12

I'm sorry you lost your baby Lou. Here when you need us, it makes a difference just having a place to vent.

NoahsMummyJul12 · 22/05/2013 17:13

I'm so sorry to hear this louzol. There is loads of support on these pages, not sure I would have done without putting of lots if waffle on these boards to people who understand what it means x

Original poster
Louzul · 24/05/2013 16:59

Thank you so much. Sorry for the delay in replying. Been a tough few days, physically and emotionally. Sometimes I just walk around in a daze. Sometimes I think I'm fine, and then something sets me off. I feel angry, sad, and scared for the future. I am sure things will get better, but at the moment. I just feel like the world is a dark place. But you have to know darkness to see the light I guess.

OP posts:
NorthernLurker · 24/05/2013 17:03

Sorry for your loss Sad Have you taken some time off work? Don't think you have to be brave and go back immediately because this was a first trimester loss. You and dp should take the time you need to grieve for your baby.

Original poster
Louzul · 24/05/2013 17:13

Yes my work have been fantastic. My line manager has been through the same experience so they have said I can take all the time I need. Going to try and go in on Tuesday. I worry about my dp though. He's been my rock, but he's dealt with it by trying to work. We are talking and hes also sad, but he's a bit more closed than I am. He saw his mate last night. They also had a MC, so he and his wife have been very supportive. I've been lucky that I've had a great support network. Hopefully the man to man chat was what he needed.

OP posts:
NorthernLurker · 24/05/2013 17:25

That is helpful for your dp. As a rule of thumb I think most men think they have to stay in control and take care of you - and of course they do need to do that but they also need room for their own feelings too. See how you both feel on Monday night and then decide if you need more time before you go back to work. Thank heavens for understanding managers Smile

gingysmummy · 02/06/2013 19:36

hi louzul,
i lost my baby last fri i have a scan in morning to see if i need any intervention. don't think i will though. hugs to you xxx

butterybiscuitbass · 02/06/2013 19:55

Hi louzul, so sorry to hear your sad and disappointing news. But please don't despair, there is hope. We are not prepared earlier in life for this, which let's face it is more often than not a natural and normal event. Keep at it. I have lost 3 and brought 3 into the world. It is a roller coaster ride that once you're on it's difficult to get off. I'm sure you'll get your baby (ies) in the end. Keep talking about it, find your support network and best of luck.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page