Mc at 6 weeks, do I go to the doctor?

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I had a MMC almost a year to the day ago at 12 weeks and have just started bleeding and cramping tonight. I am 6 weeks pg. I have light but bright red blood. I've had pinky brown discharge today too and a couple of times in the 2 weeks I've known I was pg.

Am fairly sure I'm misscarrying, I recognise the dull ache. I'm devastated, I want a baby so much.

My natural reaction would be to head to the doctor tomorrow. However, we have been trying unsuccessfully to get pg since my last mc and the doctor said that they wouldn't do any kind of investigation until we had been trying a year. Now that we have been successful, I assume that they won't do any investigation, won't consider the use of clomid or anything and will just tell us to try again. I'm scared we're going to be trying for a year again.

But then on the other hand, I guess I need to get the MC recorded in case I have multiple miscarriages.

I have had one successful pregnancy and have a beautiful four year old boy. I am desperate to give him a sibling.

Im so sorry to hear you might be having a mc. I had 2 last year, both at 6 weeks so I know what your going through. I was told they wouldn't investigate until I had 3 mcs. I dont think there is anything your doctor can do but you could contact the Early Pregnancy Unit at your local hospital, they can get you a scan to check you over, offer you support/advise and also that way if it is a mc it is recorded. I really hope it isn't a mc, good luck and please feel free to on me if you need to talk to anyone

sorry that was supposed to be PM me not on me! Xx

Thankyou babystone... Still bloody bleeding so i think its inevitable now. Dont think the doctors will do anything so i guess i will just wait and see if it all passes quickly. X

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I miscarried at 6 weeks with dc2 in March of this year. It's awful. I found the gp didn't want to know as there was nothing anyone could do. He said our EPU would 'laugh him off the phone' if he rang them

I stayed at home and thankfully the pain and the bleeding were both bearable. Like a very heavy period with clots

If the pain or bleeding is too much for you then definitely seek medical help. And I'm here for handholding should you need it. X

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So sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately I also know how you feel. I had a mmc before my DD and we have been trying for a second DC since January last year and in that time have had 2 mc. It's so hard when you just want to give your precious DC a sibling.

In terms of whether or not to go to the GP I realise its a bit political as to whether you want to be investigated for infertility or mc. Is there a sympathetic GP you can see who might take a view on the situation as a whole? According to Prof Reagan in her book about mc, the mc rate is higher in women who have trouble conceiving. So it would seem absurd if the GP just ignored one of your issues. Or could you pay to see a consultant privately just for an initial appointment to ask questions? They might get the ball rolling for nhs tests - I saw someone after my mc and he tested me on the nhs so I only paid for the initial appointment.

If you see a GP now I can't imagine they'd do much other than maybe refer you for a scan after the bleeding stops to check nothing is retained. I got all my mc on record though but I (think) I've also figured out who the most sympathetic GP at the surgery is which helps.

Really sorry this has happened to you. Hope you're doing ok.

Sorry my message got cut off. I was just going to say I think the advice is that if you are soaking through more than 2 maxi pads in an hour, seek help.

You can ring EPU yourself, explain what's happening and they should be able to get you a scan. You dont need to see a GP.
or go to A&E. I went to the hospital the first time, was checked over by a gp, they left a message for EPU who got back me on the Monday morning. 2nd time round i already had EPUs number and rang them directly and they saw me within 2 days. I think its best you do have a scan at some point because if it is a MC you need to make sure everything has gone. i know that's a horrible thing to read/hear.
Lots of people here to support you! Xx

Unfortunately all epus are different and many if them will only take you in gp referral. Mine doesn't accept calls from the public and will not see you until you are at least 8 weeks

OP if you want to check your local EPU's policies, here's the website

earlypregnancy.org.uk/FindUsMap.asp

So sorry you're going through this. I had the same thing last July, was my first pregnancy (at 6wks on the dot) and I had no idea what to expect or how to manage so I went to my GP for reassurance. He was fantastic - let me cry, talk and ask as many questions as I needed to. He didn't refer me for a scan as he said nothing would be detectable at 6weeks and as I was passing clots, it wasn't necessary. However he did say that once the bleeding had stopped, do a test to make sure nothing was left behind - if it was positive I was to go straight back to see him. If it was negative, we were ok to carry on as before. It was negative; and 2 months later I got another BFP and I'm now waiting for DC1 to make an appearance :) don't give up; I know it's totally shit but you will get there.

Take care of yourself. Xxxx

Thank you for such lovely posts, it is nice to hear from people who have experienced similar, although sad that so many of us have to go through it. Mildred, you're right it is shit, there's no better word to describe it.

We don't have an epu at our hospital, I would have to go to A&E and having been through it last year I would rather not. I don't really need the confirmation I needed then, because I recognise the signs.

I think I'll give it a few days, unless I bleed too heavily and hope it all happens quickly. I will head to the doctors if too much pain etc though. Thanks for the tip about the pregnancy test.

Teaandchocolate, I take your point about doctors looking at the big picture, and it doesn't really seem right not to be honest about being able to get pregnant. I don't want to end up getting treatment that's not right for my situation so I think I'll get an appointment to discuss the situation as a whole.

Thanks everyone x

I was in a similar quandary re mc and infertility and worrying that being too honest would rule me out. I found the consultant much more sympathetic and less interested in the 'rules' than most GPs. Although crying always helps a bit too... !