I think I am miscarrying

[vix206]

Just that really. Started brown spotting yesterday lunch time and have now started full on bleeding, just like a period. I was 6 weeks pregnant with DC2 on this Friday just gone.

I'm devastated and really frightened. Not in any physical pain yet but really worried about what this afternoon will bring.

Any support or advice would be gratefully accepted

[Slainte]

Agree with the other posters, take time to grieve.

DS will be absolutely fine with DH.

[GinAndSlimlinePlease]

Oh Vix, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. mine was very similar to yours. It is awful, I had mine confirmed on my birthday.

I hope you recover soon. Take some proper iron pills and lots of rest.

[BaldricksTurnip]

Nothing helpful to add, just wanted to offer a hand hold. Poor poor love I hope you feel better soon xxx

[vix206]

Thank you all so much. I really appreciate all the handholding.

After I passed the sac last night I thought the worst of the bleeding would be over but I'm bleeding more heavily this afternoon with little clots and feeling a bit flaky/giddy. I'm resting in bed again now. It's awful isn't it because you've no idea what's 'normal' in this situation.

My parents are here today looking after DS for me and tmw one if my best friends is coming. I feel so bad for DS as he wants me to play and I just can't.

[vix206]

I've been trawling old threads on mumsnet, reading the sad stories of others. Finding comfort and feeling sympathy. I found a link to an article that really comforted me. I'm on my phone do can't link but the important text is as follows:

"It’s now known that cells from a developing fetus cross the placenta, allowing the baby’s DNA to become part of the mother’s body. These fetal cells persist in a woman’s body into her old age. (If she has been pregnant with a male child it’s likely she’ll have some Y-chromosomes drifting around for a few decades too). This is true even if the baby she carried didn’t live to be born. The cells of that child stay with her, resonating in ways that mothers have known intuitively throughout time."

[xigris]

Oh that quote is lovely Vix, I'll remember that. How are you feeling? Do you still feel giddy? If you're bleeding quite a lot then your blood pressure may have dropped so it might be worth speaking to NHS Direct or your local A&E department. You have my sympathies, this must be so hard

[vix206]

It's something I was aware of but never really looked into until today. Full article here:

lauragraceweldon.com/2012/06/12/mother-child-are-linked-at-the-cellular-level/

X

[vix206]

I feel a bit lightheaded but nothing too bad. I lost 2L of blood in a haemorrhage after DS was born so, compared to that, this is fine

I feel more positive this evening. Ive decided I am going to find a ring to always wear for my lost little one. As a keepsake for me. Having this as a project is already helping as its something to 'do'.

No appetite for food or water but I'm really going to try and have some dinner now.

[GinAndSlimlinePlease]

I got myself a remembrance necklace here

it's lovely to wear it and remember my much wanted baby.

[vix206]

Wow gin that's beautiful thank you for sharing x

[Slainte]

Oh Vix that has really made me cry. I'm still trying to emotionally recover from my 3rd miscarriage late last year. I'm glad to know that part of the baby will always be physically with me too.

I love the idea of some remembrance jewellery, I hadn't even thought of it.

After my ERPC my blood pressure was very low which made me feel dizzy so the nurses got me to drink gallons litres of water so please keep yourself hydrated.

Sorry I can't offer any words of wisdom except please know that you are not alone.

[vix206]

Thank you slainte and I'm sorry for causing tears, even if they are because you like the quote.

[Bakingtins]

I'd seen that quote before but thanks for sharing it. It's a good idea to do something positive to honour your baby, the ring sounds like a lovely idea.

[vix206]

I found a necklace that I like. I've asked for it to be engraved and should receive it next week. DH is buying it for my birthday.

I'm feeling stronger today. First day I've got up with DS all week. Still bleeding quite a lot and I'm very hot but I feel quite well in myself.

I hope you all have a good Easter.

[vix206]

Damn. I thought I was doing so well then had a hot flush and got very strong period pains. So back to bed. I took my temp and although I was really hot and sweaty and then had chills it was only 36.8 so not feverish.

I thought, having lost the sac 2 days ago, the physical pain would be over?

[marriedinwhiteagain]

I hadn't seen that quote before and the two dc I eventually had after three m/c and ds2 who was born at 27 weeks and didn't make it are almost grown now. After 16 years since the last loss I feel more at peace with that time than ever before.

I hope today's a better day vix. I am sorry.

[GinAndSlimlinePlease]

Oh Vix, do be gentle with yourself. I bleed for four weeks when miscarrying naturally. You need rest, rest and more rest.

[vix206]

Thanks Gin, I saw the sunshine and felt like doing something but my body isn't ready for too much upright stuff at the moment!

[Creameggkr]

Gish that quote is so comforting. My little bit would have been 12 now and I also feel so happy knowing he's still in me a little.
Vix sorry you have had to go through this nobody knows how horrible it feels unless they e been there.
I have five healthy dc so have been incredibly blessed but still think of my mc often.
I also mc over my birthday sending you much love x

[Creameggkr]

Boy not bit

[ncsmummy]

Vix, I hope you are doing ok. That quote is lovely. I have ordered myself a necklace too, its quite a simple one but it will mean a lot to me x

[vix206]

Hi ncsmummy. I feel better today. The clots and pain appear to have stopped as of yesterday lunch time and so far so good. I'm hoping I can leave the house today, as I haven't since Monday.

I feel emotionally stronger too.

I hope you are holding up ok x