Waiting to miscarry -- stay at home, or not?

[TomboyWife]

I should be seven weeks. A scan on Friday showed a gestational sac measuring bang on for seven weeks, but an embryo that was only five weeks. We were told to come back in ten days but that the embryo had probably stopped developing a couple of weeks ago.

I've been having AF-like cramps for several days, and this morning I've got what looks like day one of a period. I've been through this once before and I know what's happening. My dilemma is, should I stay at home until it's all over, or should I go about my business? Last time I got bleeding at this level several days before I actually miscarried and I had a couple of hours' warning of "the main event". But I've also read stories of women miscarrying very suddenly.

Any advice from others who've been in the same situation? Having it happen in the loo at (my very male-dominated) work is a terrifying thought, but I also don't want to make lame excuse after lame excuse for why I'm not in the office.

[TomboyWife]

Well, as Sod's Law would have it, I've just miscarried naturally. It wasn't as painful as my first one, but I'd been hoping to avoid it altogether.

The EPU said that if this happened I should go in tomorrow morning for (yet) another scan to see if I still need the ERPC. My hunch is that I won't, but I guess we'll know for sure tomorrow.

[spanky2]

I am sorry

[NorksAreMessy]

So sorry Tomboy :(

[TomboyWife]

Well, joy of joys, I had to have the ERPC anyway. The EPU's scan showed a few retained products, though the surgeon who did the ERPC said afterward that she hadn't been able to get much out, so it sounds like I could've safely skipped the op. (To be fair, they did ask me beforehand if I wanted expectant management and I effectively said " expectant management", so it was 100% my decision to go ahead.)