bereavement midwife?

[nearlyreadytopop]

Just wondering if anyone has experience of a bereavement midwife? After my latest mc I was given a number to call. Im not sure what to expect or what her role is. Is she a counsellor type person? Im so conflicted and up and down at the moment that I think an outside point of view would be useful in helping me process this. Poor Dh is trying his very best but he's under a lot of pressure.

We had (still have!) a wonderful bereavement midwife after losing our beautiful DS at 41 weeks. I think they vary in how much actual counselling they offer, in the sense of face to face hour-long sessions. We paid privately for those from someone else, but I believe some hospitals can offer it. They are definitely there to help you process things. That can include making sure you have all the information you want from the hospital, helping you to navigate difficult appointments and making sure that the people who see you are informed of your past history. If you ever find yourself back at the same hospital, they are people who know your story and can feed it into your subsequent care. Definitely give her a call. Sad as it is, it is really helpful to talk to people who have experience of seeing other stories like your own. Obviously each child and each tragic loss is unique, but there are some things bereaved parents share and feeling less like the odd one out, the freak unlucky person, can be comforting in a very sad way. Bereavement midwives understand a side of life which a lot of society doesn't want to know about. In my experience they are very good people and will want to help. Good luck .