Just wanted to share this with you all :-)

[TrudyW]

Hey everyone,
Just wanted to share something positive that surrounded my miscarriage. It happened mid October 2012 and literally killed my husband and I, I was 13weeks along and we found out at our first scan.
So through my crying constantly, sobbing my heart out and basically falling apart my hubby stayed strong for us both and kept things going as normal for which I am so thankful.
As November came round he came to me with the idea of participating in 'Movember' but instead of the usual men's charities he wanted to fundraise for 'The Miscarriage Association'. He set himself a target of £250. I thought it was a fantastic idea and really helped me to cope, taking my mind off the pain and grief and being pro-active about everything!
We tallied up the total a few weeks ago and through family, friends and co-workers he managed to raise £428.75!!! I am so proud of him for his lovely idea and recognise this as his way of handling his grief as he has been so strong through all of this.
We started ttc early January and haven't had success this month which has, for me, brought the pain straight back to the surface but I'm hoping we will soon be expecting again and leaving our first scan with a strong, loud baby heartbeat echoing in our ears and a beautiful scan picture in our hands!
Donating this money is our way of creating a memory of our little baby that we never got to meet, always in our hearts :-) xxx

That's great. All the best in ttc.

That's a lovely idea. I lost my beautiful baby boy three weeks ago at 17 weeks pregnant and am really struggling with it. Found out at routine antenatal appointment, no heartbeat. Everything had been fine at 12 and 15 week scans and id seen and felt him move.

Its nice to feel you're giving something back to those wonderful charities.

Good luck ttc.

Good for you!! I think the MA are fab - they're lovely people and they have helped so many of my friends in the past.

I've had a couple of late first trimester losses myself and after I had DC2 with a high risk pregnancy and nearly lost her, I decided to "pay back"/"thank" the universe for letting me keep her by doing the London Marathon for the MA (I was not previously a runner at all!) and it was an incredibly rewarding experience that brought me a lot of peace.

How lovely of your husband. I really hope you don't have to wait too long for that take home baby.

Sorry to both of u for your losses, it is such a hard thing to experience and you are changed forever afterwards.
Huge well done on completing the marathon murderofprose, what a fab achievement!
Don't get me wrong by no means does this change the effects our miscarriage has had but we both just feel better having done it and it has brought us some happiness in declaring that that little life was part of us and it did exist!

Yes, exactly! Fundraising in this way for a relevant charity - something you otherwise would not have done if the baby had been fine - does mean that there was a point to their existence. It is an acknowledgement :-)

Just had fab news that the MA now want us to write a piece on our story and send in some pics for their newsletter, dead happy! Def feel like my little bean has made an impact in the world even just for a short time :-)

That's great news!! I'll keep an eye open for your story in the newsletter!! I got my photo in it after doing the marathon, I did submit my story (gave them the URL to my blog) but it was more like a novel so they unsurprisingly didn't publish

Ha I understand, could have gone on for ages, so much to say but I just put the main things across so hope its ok and gets published!
Been nice talking to u murderofprose :-)

Well done to your DH, Trudy. It's great that you can bring something positive out of this.