Was that it? What happens now?

[spiderlight]

I miscarried at home last night. It was partly expected, although we're still devastated: at my scan last Tuesday I was told that the baby was only measuring at 5mm/5 weeks and should have been closer to nine weeks, and I'd had several incidents of dark brown spotting and no pregnancy symptoms at all, so I'd been worried form the start. I was due to go back for another scan this Thursday to see whether there was any growth but I started bleeding intermittently on Friday night and then last night at about 8pm I started having what felt initially like constant period pain and much heavier bleeding. This turned into intermittent pain like early contractions, and then at about 11pm I had a more severe cramp, stood up to try and relieve it and a lot of blood/clots/mucus came away. The pain and bleeding both died down within an hour or so of this and I now have no pain at all and just fairly light deep-red/brown bleeding like the end of a period.

I phoned the antenatal clinic this morning expecting to be told to go in for a scan and they were lovely but just said to see my GP and she'd examine me and only send me for a scan if she thought it was incomplete. GP's delightful receptionist, know9ing what had happened, told me that I could go in and wait at open surgery (which is always packed - usually at least a two-hour wait) but that she couldn't guarantee I'd see a female doctor, or that I could wait for the GP to phone me and see if I qualified for a home visit, so I opted for the latter. She's not rung yet but I don't know whether she'll want to examine me internally. Is there likely to be more major bleeding, or was that it? I have my little boy's school Nativity in the morning and I cannot miss it - he's only five and it's such a big deal for him, and he doesn't know about any of this. What can I expect to happen next? Was that it?

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Sorry to hear about your loss. To be honest it sounds like your miscarriage is complete. You sound like you have had all the cramps and bleeding. I'm not an expert and can't say for sure. But if you start getting more pain, heavier bleeding or it's not settling in a week or so it will be worth going back to your GP and getting a scan organised just to be sure. I'm sure you will be okay tomorrow for your sons nativity, and hope you manage to enjoy it despite what has happened.

Take care xx

So sorry for your loss.

I had an internal scan as I couldn't provide 'evidence' of my miscarriage (that happened in hospital at 12 weeks) this was about a week after. Most likely your GP will send your for an internal scan but it doesn't have to be immediately.

I hope you don't miss out on your little boys nativity. Prepare to she'd buckets of tears over it though! Those damned pregnancy hormones will still be racing round your body so go easy on yourself and take time to heal.

I've just had a long chat with a lovely, lovely GP over the phone and she's said the same - no need to do anything at the moment because it sounds as if it was 'straightforward' and she thinks it will just run its course like a period now. She's said to go straight to the surgery if I have any significant pain or signs of infection but otherwise she doesn't need to see me unless I want a chat. I'm glad to not have to go and be poked and prodded because I feel too fragile today, but it's odd that it has all ended so quietly and 'unofficially', somehow. I'm glad I was at home though.

I will take many, many tissues to the nativity....

Oh God. It wasn't complete. I've spent the past five hours in pain worse than labour and lost a load more blood and clots. It's easing off a bit now but I don't know what to do if it gets worse again - got nobody local wyho can look after my little boy or the dogs if we go to A&E. I've taken all the paracetemol and ibuprofen I can take, thrown half of it back up and have got my TENS on max. Blood is turning more watery and pinkish and there haven't been any big clots for an hour or so - does that mean the end is in sight? I need a rest - am utterly exhausted.

For all I've been saying these past few days about nature knowing best, it is a fucking bastard sometimes - kills your baby and then makes you go through labour anyway :(

Bless you love, it's so shit :(
Are you having to change a pad more than every hour? The advice I was given was to go into a&e if that was the case or at least ring nhs direct for advice.
Sorry am a bit vague only had one natural mc and it was years ago now take care.

I did at one point a few hours ago afte a massive flood of blood, but the bleeding has calmed right down now and pains less frequent and manageable with wheatbag/swearing/distraction. I should probably have gone to A&E for stronger pain relief. Will phone GP first thing and ask for a perscription.

How are you doing today? I Hope the pain has eased a bit. It's a messy business but can be got through with good painkillers and rest.

Take care.

I'm better today - thank you for asking. The pain has eased a lot and apart from one massive clot first thing, I'm mostly just passing watery pinkish blood now. GP has a prescription for strong co-codamol waiting for me to pick up after school just in case it gets bad again and I made it to my son's Nativity this morning. Am feeling very, very fragile and absolutely terrified of the pain coming back again, but so far I've just had a few mild cramps. I might have to have a scan after all because it wasn't all over and done with in one go, but my GP has said to see how the bleeding settles over the next few days first.

Been to see my lovely, lovely GP today after another long evening of very painful cramps yesterday. I now have strong ibuprofen to take in between the doses of co-codamol, antibiotics 'just in case' - athough I'm not keen on taking them because I have ulcerative colitis and I'm a bit protective of my gut bacteria - and a referral for a scan in case there's retained membrane, although she didn't think there was given that the pain and bleeding are fine during the day. I also got a very big hug that made me cry. Thank goodness for lovely GPs. Scan will apparently be 'hopefully before Christmas'

Uff :(

It's good to know your GP was so lovely and a comfort to you, as well as giving practical advice.

Many more hugs to you. Take care of yourself and surround yourself with whatever is comforting. I'm really, really sorry for your loss. It's so hard just before Christmas to face all of this. xox

Thank you. I'm trying to write cards and wrap presents today and I have to go out for a Christmas meal tomorrow with friends, most of whom don't know. DS has been looking forward to it for weeks so I can't not go but I just want to hide in bed with a wheatbag and not come out. We'd been massively looking forward to telling DH's parents at Christmas so I'm dreading going down there now.

More pain and clots last night, and a friend posted the most gorgeous photo of her newborn on FB and it totally knocked the wind out of me. Thousands of what-ifs going round and round in my head. I was totally, totally unprepared for this :(

Oh God. Just passed the sac, after several hours of unbelievably heavy bleeding (which started with an enormous flood while we were out and miles from the car - thank goodness I had a longish black coat and dark jeans on). Have now very definitely passed the sac though, and buried it under a rowan tree in the garden wrapped in one of my mum's silk handkerchiefs :( Am a total, total mess. Five-year-old DS has been here the whole time, so we're trying to be as normal as we can until he goes to bed. I can't believe how big it was, given that the baby was only 6mm on the scan. I'd assumed it would have been lost in one of the clots. I'm glad that it wasn't and that we were able to bury it. So sad though.

spiderlight, I can only give you a virtual hug from so far away.

The newborns really knock me for a loop even now, 3.5 months on from the loss. It is so very hard and so very unfair. You are totally normal to feel odd or upset about seeing those photos.

Thank you

Does anybody know whether the bleeding is likely to settle now that the sac has definitely gone? It was truly apocalyptic yesterday - soaking through the biggest maternity pads and all my clothes in seconds - and I'm terrified to leave the house now. DH is coming home to do the school run but we've got three of DS's friends coming for tea, too late to rearrange and I'm terrified of more flooding like that because there was no warning. Hardly any blood today so far though.

No real idea, but from what I've heard from other people, it can go on for a bit. But very heavy bleeding should be reported to your GP or gynae. xox

I was going to yesterday but I literally couldn't get out of the bathroom for long enough to phone anyone and I didn't want to end up spending hours bleeding all over A&E when I wasn't feeling dizzy or faint, and then once the sac passed it turned off like a tap and is now barely more than spotting. Hospital haven't really wanted to know so far though - I phoned the EPU about an earlier heavy bleed and they just said to ring my GP in the morning. Will go and see my lovely GP in the morning and get checked for anaemia at least.