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new pregnancy after two miscarriages.

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stingray · 07/04/2006 10:17

I am a 43 year old with three children of 8,12and 18.I have had two missed miscarriages in the last 18 months and have found out this week that I am pregnant again.although I am thrilled at being pregnant, there is A part that is totally terrified and sure that it is going to happen again.I have decided that due to my age and the huge amount of stress involved this will be my last attempt.I am getting plenty of rest and eating very healthily,and know that this is all I can do.please wish me lots and lots of luck girls as I do all of you.

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twocatsonthebed · 07/04/2006 10:28

Hello stingray,

Well I'm definitely wishing you luck. I'm 40 and 10weeks pregnant after one missed miscarriage and two very early miscarriages. I find it hard to believe that this one will last and be OK, but I think after a miscarriage it is hard.

Over on the pregnancy board there is a very supportive pregnancy after miscarriage thread, where we're all in the same boat- and I've certainly found it very helpful to go there and worry, as everyone else understands the sense of precariousness.

Piffle · 07/04/2006 10:30

Wishing you really good luck - I know exactly how scared you feel
REst up and take care and hopefully a good pregnancy awaits you :)
And congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wools · 07/04/2006 11:06

Congratulations Stingray....great news. I am 42 years, have had 2 missed miscarriages and like you very nervous as well (13 weeks today). I echo what twocats says, come and join us on the pregnancy after miscarriage thread - we're all in the same boat and you can post any worries and get loads of support.

Arabica · 08/04/2006 01:09

Many congratulations Stingray! Am 44 and 23wks pg--had a missed m/c last year. Have been anxious throughout the pregnancy, but got lots of support from the pregnancy after m/c thread and I hope you will too!
By the way my hospital were really chilled out about my age--they were much more interested in my asthma.

HellKat · 08/04/2006 09:14

As the girls have said, we're on the pg after mc support thread. It's a wonderful place as we've all been there, understand and know the worries. I'm 17+2 after 4 previous mc's (have 2 ds's).
Look forward to seeing you hun, take care x

stingray · 08/04/2006 12:41

Thank you for all the support,it means an awful lot.I gain alot from discussing how I feel with women who have been through the same thing.I have calmed down a little,even though we had been trying to get pregnant it came as A suprise as this time it only took two months.I had A bit of an emotional outburst this week crying and convincing myself that this pregnancy was going to end the same as the last two,but I had A good talk and lots of support from my long suffering husband and am trying very very hard to be positive.I will join you on the pregnancy after miscarriage thread ,and once more thank you all for the encouragement,I really needed it. love karen.

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fransmom · 08/04/2006 15:46

hi stingray, twocats, hellkat, arabica, wools and piffle, i just wanted to say that i am thinking of you all cos i know exactly what you going through. i had m/c (not sure what a missed1 is, sorry) 15th march 1994, i was pg outside marriage (not good with catholic mother), plus the docs had advised to not carry on with pg because i was pg even though i took morning after pill. to cut long story short, i m/c 5hours before op. when i fell pg with my dd, (now nearly 1) i was worried about every little twinge and when i had spotting i nearly fainted, turns out to be "implantation bleed". there were difficult circumstances anyway but i felt that i couldn't enjoy the pg for fear that i would m/c again. some parts i did, but overall i can honestly say that i didn't and i was bloody well scared.

to help things2, my waters didn't go completely so had to booked in for induction at bristol (which i hadn't wanted) on the monday morning at 9am. dd was finally born at 20 to1 (a.m.) the following day). a healthy baby.

what i guess i'm saying is that (if a bit cliched) i'm here for you cos i understand what it's like to be pg after a m/c.

thinking of you all love fm x

mz1 · 30/07/2008 15:29

Hi everyone!!!
I feel exactly what it is. It is painfull and also i feel a little negative.
Am 42 years old have hansom 12 year old boy from a previous marriage. I just got married last year and we decide to start trying on january 2008. Well got pregnant on feb and m/c at 6.5 weeks (march) ok
but i thought i have not being pregnant for 12 years my body was not ready it felt like a shock for my body that pregnancy., no d/c m/c natural, wait one period star again got pregnant in may and heart beat stop yesterday when we went for doc app this time 9.2 weeks. Now am having a d&c on aug 5 and am living tomorrow to NH to visit my son at camp and i feel so sad...
Well the first time like i said was kid of ok but now i feel something is wrong and i might not be able to have a baby with my husband i do not know what to do should i go to a specialist to help me?? am afraid to have another m/c i have no problem to get pregnant i really not understand
love and if somebody can help me thank you mz1

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