Ectopic pregnancy- hold my hand?

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Last fri I got a bfp, which was a bit of a surprise as we weren't TTC and DS is only 1. Had pain over weekend (but thought it was just implantation pain- I had lots w DD). Turns out it was an ectopic pregnancy and I had emergency op yesterday, resulting in one tube being removed. Now home, and being spoilt by DH- spent day on sofa in front of fire, snoozing and drinking tea. Also have help w DC so that's sorted.

Even though DC3 wasn't planned, and I hadn't quite got my head around having a 3rd so quickly, I feel so sad, and desperate to TTC asap. I know I have a lot to be grateful for and the main thing is that I have 2 beautiful, healthy DC, and that I'm fine, but v tearful.

Can anyone hold my hand or share their experience?

TIA

Hello, sorry to hear of what you've been through, but very glad that you got the medical attention you need and that you are safe. Just wanted to say that I haven't had an ectopic pregnancy but I do have only one tube ( the other had to be removed during an operation for an ovarian cyst) and my fertility doesn't seem to have particularly suffered so as another poster said, it's not the case that your fertility is reduced to 50%.

There's an episode of "sex and the city" where Miranda is told she has a lazy ovary and she spends the rest of the episode panicking about a so-called halving of her fertility. But the truth is that your remaining "side" will compensate for it and tubes are "grabby" so try not to worry.

Hi all, and thank you so much.

I was feeling so much better this morning and had long chat w SIL and also one of my DSis. It felt like a big blessing as before the last year or so I wd never have imagined talking to SIL so honestly and getting such support. A friend then came over and though she made teas and DH made lunch, I'm now utterly pooped and my incisions really hurt. I don't feel as sad as yesterday- I had a long cry last night which was quite cathartic, just exhausted all of a sudden. I guess the surgery alone wd do that though.

I think it's just occurring to me how long it might take to recover from this physically. Maybe I won't be going out on Friday night or taking children away over mid term (by myself, inc flying...). It's silly, but taking it easy is something I find quite hard.

Oh, I didn't know there was a MC section or an ectopic support thread. I might ask to get this moved to MC section and also post on the support thread. Thanks

Hi everyone,

We'll shortly be moving this thread to miscarriage section, at the OP's request.