struggling to cope

[CaptainHoratioWragge]

Just that really. Had a scan today and baby died at 7 weeks, (i'm supposed to be 11+1)

last pregnancy ended at 7 weeks
first pregnancy ended at 20 weeks

3 pregnancies, 3 MMC's, no babies...I feel like i've run out of coping/energy/hope to get me through this one and I feel such despair tonight.

Thanks for listening

So sorry - that's rotten. No advice just handholding and sending hugs your way x x

I am so sorry. No wonder you feel so sad.

It is utterly shit

Oh you poor thing. It is truly, truly shit.

I'm so sorry, miscarriage is horrible. I know this is the last thing you will be thinking about now, but when you are up to it ask to be refered for testing.

If its of any remote consolation I had six miscarriages but ended up having my dd in march.

Be kind to yourself you are going through a horrible time, it will take time to feel better.

Sending you a big hug xx

Oh Captain, so so sorry to hear this. Life just isn't fair sometimes.
Thinking of you and sending a virtual hug.
xx

Captain

I am so sorry that you have yet another loss to deal with. It really isn't fair.

I wish that I had the words to take some of the pain and shock you are feeling away. It must have taken real courage to try again, and I hope that you find some of that same strength inside you to help you over the coming days.

We might not be there with you in person, but please know that we are with you in spirit, holding your hand. xxx

thanks for the support, really appreciated.

I've already been offered the St Thomas RMC as my blood tests this time postiive for APS, I have to say everyone there has been incredibly kind to me.

Sitting at home on the sofa now half hoping it doesn't start before I can get a surgical appointment so i don't have to deal with it by myself, and half hoping it does start as i just want it to be over with.

I'm going to go out in a bit and get some maxi pads and some easy books from the library to distract me.

I'm so very sorry for your losses life is so cruel sometimes. Be gentle with yourself sending much love and support xxx

Thanks, both of you.

I'm planning on getting out books i'd normally be ashamed to be seen with they are so trashy!

Thinking of you today Captain. hope your day is going ok and the books are sufficiently trashy X

Thanks Humphrey, i'm lying in bed reading my book cuddling the dog who can't believe his luck as he's normally banned from the bedroom.

No words to offer - just a big hug.

Adding another hug. I'm in the middle of my second miscarriage and it's so crap that this happens to some people not just once but over and over. You deserve so much better.

Oh i'm so sorry messtins, its bloody crap isn't it.

Captain
I am so sorry, crap/shit is not the word, I hope u get thru it and best of luck for the future x

thanks purple

I'm 41 and lucky to have 2 healthy children - I was 6 weeks pregnant with my 3rd it was such a surprise as we had tried for 3 years. I went to the first scan on my own and heard the heartbeat. Then 5 days later had miscarriage signs and went into work to find I had to go directly to hospital to be told I'd miscarried. I'm heartbroken especially because I think this will be last pregnancy as my husband is afraid of complications again. I see this as a failure. How long does it take to feel normal again? Thanks for your support.

I'm so sorry to read that, Lifeatanyage. It must be so devastating to lose one after 3 years of trying.

I don't know about feeling normal again, after my last one i started to feel more positive after a couple of months, but I wouldn't say i ever got back to my old self again.

Look after yourself, and don't make any final decisions with DH yet...it might be you feel differently when you've had a chance to catch your breath a bit.

Thinking of you

I had my erpc this morning. It was fine. lovely docs all looked after me really well and were then very kind.

Then dumped in the day surgery recovery room with no food, water, pain killers or anyone to ask for any. Not sure what the thinking here is...

A nurse finally appeared and ask to take my blood pressure and i thought, sod this, i've got food and drink and paracetamol at home, i'd be better off leaving, so i told her i wanted to go home, and asked her to take the thing out of my vein so i could go.

Oh she said, are you keen to go because you've got young children at home waiting for you.

No, i said, i've just had a erpc for my third miscarriage of the year, but thanks for kicking me when i'm down.

Grrr

Thanks for the sympathy, i know i probably shouldn't dwell on what she said!

The thing is, I really wish i'd had the wherewithall at the time to say 'no, i'm desperate to go home as i'm thirsty and hungry and in pain' but didn't think of it. Easy to think of these things after the event, i suppose.

A doc came to see me just beforehand who works in the recurrent miscarriage department, and she seemed amazing, so hopefully that department will be full of such lovelies!