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Ju1es22 · 02/09/2012 20:57

Hi Ladies

Hope this doesn't offend/upset anyone but wanted to share my happy news:-)

I've suffered 5 MC's in nearly 4 years of trying, I got pregnant back in December and this one stuck I'm currently cradling her in my arms:-)

Baby Eva Anne arrived at 03:15 on Monday weighing 5ib7oz, at 38 weeks gest. She's perfect I can't believe she's really here and we get to keep her!

Its not been easy I've had a very complicated stressful pregnancy but its now all forgotten and forgiven;)

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MrsIcarus · 02/09/2012 21:04

Congratulations!! Very pleased for you. I have a few friends who've had similar histories of recurrent miscarriages. Two are now nearing full term so it's lovely to hear good news from someone who has made it! Enjoy every minute. xx

teaandchocolate · 02/09/2012 21:32

Congratulations Ju1es! And thank you for sharing your story. I really needed that tonight - feeling quite low at the moment after my 3rd mc and finding out that 3 of my best friends are due within a month of what would have been my due date. Stories like your really help me stay positive so thank you for thinking of us & coming back to share!! Do you mind if I ask whether you did anything differently with Eva's pregnancy? Beautiful name by the way!

Geekster · 02/09/2012 21:47

Massive congratulations we had dd in march after six miscarriages in four years and there is nothing like the feeling of having your baby in your arms. If your anything like me you'll wake up in the night only to think you dreamed you had a baby, then you realise you actually did and you can't wipe the grin off your face. Good name our dd middle name is Eva and it means life or giver of live and I can't think of a more apt name.

Ju1es22 · 03/09/2012 07:37

Thank you ladies we're ecstatic, geekstar you've got it spot on ad I can't help but keep checking, she's still breathing in the night when she goes quiet:-)

You all made me a bit emosh with your lovely comments, I wish someone had posted something very similar after my third to help me keep strong, I know how it feels and you girls need stories like mine to give you faith to keep trying!

Teaandchocolate I've been in your position a couple of years ago now, I had a mmc at 11 weeks after seeing hb at 10 weeks! Our good friends had been trying for a while and knew I was pregnant, when we had to tell them I'd mc again they announced her pregnancy, her dd was 2 days after mine! They told us first out of all our friends I stayed composed and said congratulations, but as soon as I left the bar and out of sight I was a wreck.

It was really hard for both of us, we didn't see each other so much and I now feel bad about it, my baby wasn't meant to be I shouldn't have made her feel bad for carrying a healthy baby:-)

I don't know if you've been referred for recurrent mc tests but firstly that's worth a try (although mine came back clear) my consultant put me on low dose aspirin as a may/may not work situation (been taking since Dec 10) After my 5th mc I was recommended again by consultant to take 5mg folic acid which I'd been taking since September and have continued throughout the pregnancy.

But the big thing for me and I now know is most important is your mental well being. I got myself so depressed I was stuck in a rut and kept going on and on about the past instead of looking ahead and thinking positive! Now this wasn't easy I refused antidepressants, and decided to go down the counselling route your gp can refer you or like me you can find someone yourself locally (obviously the latter you've got to pay for!) I had councelling from Sept - early Dec and I'm sure that definatley helped:-)

Send you a big hug , keep your chin up today will be a better day

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OneOfMyTurnsComingOn · 03/09/2012 07:39

How lovely! Congratulations on your amazing news!! GrinGrin

teaandchocolate · 03/09/2012 10:07

Hi Ju1es thanks for your message. I do have a DD so I know I am very lucky. Think I'm just getting down as I could write one or 2 mc off as bad luck and now I've had 3 I'm just not sure and literally everyone I know is pregnant (& everyone else is asking when I'm going to have another) I feel like hibernating!! I am finding their growing bumps so hard to handle. And also the fact that my DD is growing up so fast is really bothering me, which is stupid I know.

I've had karyotyping done but not had results yet and my 2nd mc was tested and found to have a chromosonal abnormality which seemed vaguely reassuring until the next mc! Not had clotting tests etc as need to wait til Oct (3 months after last mc) apparently and tempted to try again first - and going to try taking progesterone next time as well as aspirin (which I did take last time but didn't work). If it doesnt work next time I will probably use our savings and just go private and have as many tests done as possible as my nhs consultant just doesn't seem that bothered and I don't want to wait too long.

You are right that the hardest thing to deal with is the emotional side of things and I just don't want to lose it totally but feel like I'm becoming obsessed. I did briefly try counselling after my 1st mc and didn't feel like it helped but maybe I should try again. Or was thinking of trying reflexology. I did have regular accupuncture but can't say I enjoyed it and was so expensive...and didn't seem to work!!

Thank you for your kind words!! Really helps being able to discuss this with someone who understands as its lonely in RL as noone I know has gone through this!

Saretta · 03/09/2012 16:07

Congratulations Ju1es! I don't think anyone would be offended with you sharing your happy news. I personally find it positive and uplifting to hear good news after miscarriage(s), so thank you for sharing. Enjoy lots of snuggles with your DD!

TaytoCrisp · 03/09/2012 16:13

Congratulations Ju1es! Thats fabulous and inspiring news! I hope you and your new little family are all welcome. Welcome Baby Eva Ann - wonderbaby!

Irishmammybread · 03/09/2012 19:42

Congratulations Ju1es! Your lovely news about Eva gives us all hope.

tea , I'm in a similar position to you, I'm having my third miscarriage at the moment.(had one in March,June and now). The hospital wasn't very encouraging about referring me for any work up ,I'm 44 and the midwife said because it was likely due to chromosomal abnormalites and because we had three normal pregnancies when we were younger , there was no point in testing for anything. My GP is going to write to the consultant to see what he suggests but in the meantime the advice is just to take baby aspirin if we want to try again. Do you need to be prescribed progesterone?
DH is unsure whether we should ttc again ,and I know we're lucky to have three lovely DC but it is hard when you have that "empty arm syndrome" and long for a baby.

Geekster, congrats on your DD too! You must have been so disheartened after six miscarriages,lovely that your little girl arrived safely in March.
I've had that dream several times when I've been holding a newborn,can almost feel the weight and smell that baby smell and then wake, thinking for a moment it's true and then reality comes flooding back. Funny how the mind works.
But, as you and ju1es have shown, there's always hope!

Ju1es22 · 05/09/2012 09:07

Thanks ladies I just remembered how low I felt at times could of done with a few of these good news stories:-)

Don't know what you ladies think..... As like most of you I've been to our local epas more times than I'd have liked, after going through this and knowing that pure pain emotionally and physically we go through with every loss. I've wrote a thank you card to the lovely ladies there mentioning not mind being contacted if anyone going through what I have just wants a friendly ear to listen:-)

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Irishmammybread · 05/09/2012 23:10

Lovely idea ju1es

whiteandyelloworchid · 06/09/2012 11:19

oh wow congratulations

fantastic new and a ray of hope for us all

randomimposter · 06/09/2012 13:16

that's terrific news Ju1es. Welcome to baby Eva! So happy for you.

You are absolutely right, sharing good news IS important, so here goes...

I had DS at 40, and started TTC#2 at 41. I had 3 MMCs all around 12 weeks, and then lots of tests indicating nothing was wrong. I was nearly 43 by this point. In the next 10 months I had 2 more MCs, this time early ones around 6 weeks, and started to believe that DS would be an only. In fact when my period arrived in December, I thought bollocks to all this and stopped taking all the supplements (had been on DHEA, high dose Folic Acid, Agnus castus and usual preg supplements).

And then in January, the month before I turned 44 I got another BFP. And somehow this one did feel different.

I'm now 36 weeks pregnant with DS2. I haven't my babe in arms yet, and I won't truly relax until I do, but my pregnancy has been pretty untroubled and easy tbh. I feel very lucky.

So whilst I totally get the "I can't do this again" thing that you go through after a MC, I guess I'm saying that it can happen - even to an ancient old bird like me Grin.

Wishing everyone much luck and happiness.

Ju1es22 · 06/09/2012 16:33

Thanks ladies, glad I've given you hope!

Huge Congrats also to geekster and jollster thank you for sharing your stories:-) Only wish more would come back on and do so it really gives ladies hope and may even lift someones day!

Baby Eva's doing great 10 day checkup today, was born at 5ib 7oz and is now 5ib12 and half oz's!!

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nananaps · 08/09/2012 21:13

Wooohoooo! Another positive story, LOVE IT!
Im 19 weeks, of high dose folic acid, asprin and preg vits.
7 mcs, aged 42, gave up trying, popped to GP and got the pill. Waiting for af to arrive after last mc.....no af.
scan showed no retained products from mc..but a wee baby with a lovely hb Shock

SO excited Grin
Have climbed down off the ceiling this week as amnio results are all good, and i can feel my bambino kicking.
All my re occurring mc testing was normal too, no reason, no treatement, no hope...so it seemed.

We are part of a very special little lucky club think girls SmileGrin

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