4th mmc

[avaj]

Have just had the devestating news again. Heartbroken, really thought this time things would work out.
We had a great 12week+3 scan, baby moving about, even saw her open and close her mouth a couple of times. Scan yesterday, should have been 14+3, but no heartbeat, baby measured 12+6.
Just can't believe this is happening again. I have been so sick for weeks and even now am still being sick, it's just so unfair. just really posting to help it sink in I think.
I have 2 DC's, so am lucky. Those pregnancies were so straightforward. Then 4 mmc in a row, all babies getting to around the 12 week mark. What is going wrong? Am I doing something wrong? I wish I knew and I would do anything to change it.
Just feel like this is the end of the road, don't think I could put everyone through this again.
Sorry for ramble, just feeling so gutted and lost.
Thanks for reading.

I'm so sorry :(

I've had 3 MMCs around 12 weeks, and then 2 earlier losses. But to have a "safe" 12 week scan and then a loss must be truly devastating.

Did you have any tests run after your third loss?

Opinion seems to suggest that MMCs are more egg quality related. Mine were in a 15 month period when I was 41-42. When I had the tests nothing showed up as "wrong" just the unsaid AGE...

So I started taking DHEA which is suggested to improve egg quality.

Who knows if that was it or not, but am now 35 weeks with DS2. I was 44 in February.

I also felt I wasn't sure I could do it again, and this pregnancy was really last chance saloon. So I totally get how you are feeling. But I felt I owed it to DS1 to try and give him a sibling until it was too late.

best of luck.

So sorry to hear this.

You are doing NOTHING wrong.

I had 4 MMCs; 3 in quick succession, then another between DC2 and 3.

Have any causes for your MCs been identified? Have you been referred to a Recurring MC Clinic for instance?
I had great support, investigations and hand-holding from them. No cause found (as is so often the case). FWIW I too had DS4 aged almost 44, so I suppose there is always hope for the future.

Does not make the current loss any easier to bear, I know .

Sending love and strength.

Hi avaj, so sorry for your loss. All losses are horribly distressing but when you've seen the heartbeat and got that glimmer of hope it just seems doubly cruel.

Please don't blame yourself, you've done nothing wrong. Have you had any investigations? After 3 consecutive losses you can push for recurrent miscarriage testing on the NHS. Speak to your GP or EPU.

I'm about to start my 5th mc, found out thursday at a scan that my baby died a couple of weeks ago at 7 weeks. Saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks Bleeding and cramping now so am staying in bed for the forseeable future

What have you decided to do, are you waiting to miscarry naturally? I was booked in for an ERPC next Thursday but looks like I won't need it.

Take care of yourself x

Thank you for your replies, and sorry for the horrible times you have all been through.

Coney, so sorry to hear your bad news, hope it's as gentle as it can be.
I did have tests after my last mmc, and they were all normal. The only unusual thing in the post mortum was the cord was tightly coiled. Consultant said that it could possibly be a factor, but this is an area they are only begining to look at.
I am booked to be medically managed next week.

Jollstar - congratulations, lovely to hear some good news.
I took asprin this time, what is DHEA? don't think i've heard of that.
I tend to fall pg the minute we have unprotected sex, don't know if thats part of the problem, unfussy uterus?

xxx

I've often thought the same thing avaj, about unfussy uterus. The maximum time its taken us to conceive is 2 months. But then out of 5 pregnancies, surely one of those would be ok.

All my tests came back normal too, but took 150mg aspirin and progesterone this time and was convinced for some reason the progesterone would work its magic on me but sadly not. Next stop for us is Mr. Shehata and NK Cells testing I think. I'd be interested to hear about DHEA too jollster. I've also heard that COQ10 can improve egg quality which is available without prescription but I don't know if this just marketing crap...

Hello, no words of wisdom i'm afraid, but I know what its like to lose them after seeing them look fine on the 12 week scan. You are right, it is really unfair. And bloody awful. I'm very sorry for your loss.

I'm not recommending it, I'm not medically trained. But the consultant I saw at the Agora Clinic in Hove mentioned it to me, as they had seen good results in 40+ IVF patients. I didn't try the IVF route as similar to some of you I was conceiving quickly enough but they weren't sticking. I was advised 75mg a day. I think it takes 4-6 months to have any impact, (during this time I had 2 6week MCs), but took it for 8 months until Dec 2011, along with high dose Folic Acid, and for the last 4 months Agnus Castus. When my period arrived in Dec, I thought bollocks I'm fed up of all these supplements. Stopped taking them all, drunk lots of wine and champagne over the Christmas and New Year period, then got a BFP at the end of Jan... go figure.

DHEA

Sorry to hear what your going through. I've had 3 and seeing the recurrent mc clinic this month so nothing to add really I'm afraid. It is worrying how many people get tested and nothing found to be wrong.