Missed Miscarriage

[millimurphy]

Hello. I went for my 12 week scan last Friday only to be told the baby had died at about 5-6 weeks and I had a 'missed miscarriage'. Due to bank holiday was told to go away and think about how I wanted to proceed - to let things come away naturally, have specialised tablets or a D&C.

I thought I would just leave things. Unfortunately this wasn't to be and I started badly bleeding on Monday and was in awful pain. I was rushed to hospital and it turns out the placenta was stuck and I needed surgery to take things away and to stop the bleeding. I needed extra blood as I had lost so much.

I have never been so scared and thought I was dying. So question is: what are the chances of this happening again? Hubby and I already have a 14 month old son, but would like another one. I would not want to go through anything like that again. Is this how a 'normal' miscarriage would be or have I just been unlucky? My age is 39 just in case it is relevant!

Feel very battered, bruised and fed up. Can't believe my baby could just die like that and I never even realised.

So sorry, sounds like you've had a terrible time.

This hadn't happened to me, but something similar happened to a friend - the next 2 pregancies went ahead normally and they now have 2 lovely children.
I hope it all works out for you x

Poor you, it sounds awful. Such bad luck it happened this way to you. I hope things go well in your next pregnancy.

I think you have just been unlucky. miscarriages are sadly common but most are not too painful and are straightforward. sorry its happened to you x

so sorry for your loss. Missed miscarriages are terribly hard. I've had 3 all around 12 weeks and 2 early mcs too. All of these between 41 and 43. But I'm now 35 weeks pregnant with DS2 so even after lots of losses and now at 44 it's possible for a happy ending. Good luck.

Mmc is horrible. I had one with my first pregnancy - baby died at about 10.5 weeks after a perfectly healthy scan at 9 weeks. I had an ERPC as I just wanted to get passed it all. Just over 2 months later we conceived DS1 and in fact my DS2, who sadly died at 36 weeks into my pregnancy, was conceived on the first attempt!

So, sadly there's no way of saying if a mmc will happen again, but it's certainly not a definite. I'm now 7 weeks pregnant with DC3 and terrified something will go wrong, but I don't think that ever goes away after a mc or mmc.

Good luck!