I had a mc at 7 weeks a couple of weeks ago. The hospital gave me a little pot to collect the baby in if I noticed it when it passed. I was very surprised but there was something that was very different to everything else and when I brought it to EPU the nurse said the baby would be inside the tissue that I had collected. She offered to send it for testing and then explained that it would be cremated with all the other little babies and the ashes scattered in a baby garden of rememberance at a local cemetary.
The thing is I dont know if I did the right thing in handing it over. I dont know what else I could have done but there is something that just doesnt feel right about it now looking back. I forgot to bring the copy of the consent form home and it was posted out. I really should have asked more questions at the time as to what would happen to her. The consent form mentions wax slides (sorry, that disturbs me and I really dont mean to annoy anyone else).
DH was super at the time, but fails to see what the problem is now, doesnt mention it anymore and has moved on. His main aim at the time was making sure I was ok and thought the testing would be a good idea for future pregnancies.
I dont know what to make of it all now, it seems like a horrible nightmare that only I am in.