lost baby girl at 28 weeks last week can't cope

[coco2303]

I have previously had 3 miscarriages so when I got past the 'danger' zone I was so looking forward to meeting my daughter.however I went for a scan last wednesday to find that there was no heartbeat.she was then born on friday 10th august.the funeral is next week and eventhough I want to say my proper goodbye my emotions are up and down at the moment and I keep crying I can't help it.I have always known I wanted to be a mother now I am but without my baby.I'm finding it reall hard to cope with.I anyone has suffered the same loss please help me know how to deal with this xx

Fanjodisfunction it does sound like a good idea to get away for a bit as it is ard to come together when everything is going on.I know I will never forget my daughter I just hope my partner remembers her too xx

coco I'm sure your partner remembers her. My DH has just said to me after I read out this thread that from his experience, he felt he had to strong for me, that he had seen me go through the birth and he felt helpless. That everyone who spoke to him asked about me, not him. Its hard for men to express themselves anyway. He probably feels so conflicted not knowing what to do. I hope that if you do go away that you get to talk.

Fanjodisfunction I can believe what you are saying I suppose a lot of people forget that men actually go through pain of losing a child aswell but everyone seems to focus on the woman.I just find it difficult as he hasn't even seen a picture of her and I know people deal with things like this differently and I am not angry with him but I really do wish he would see her.and with arranging everything all he has done is come registry office when I have told him I am going to sort out the funeral he doesn't want to attend.my mom has been there for me I am very lucky in that aspect but I do wish it was my partner that helped me in arrangin to say goodbye to our daughter as we only have one chance of saying goodbye and it is his goodbye aswell as mine.did ur DH see your little one?tayto crisp so sorry to hear of your loss at the moment I still feel as if I am in a dream like the while thing isn't real is this something that anbody else experienced.I cryred and cryed the first few days but now my emotions are coming in waves I am finding it difficult to know what I am feeling.my babys funeral is on tuesday which I can see being the hardest day of my life and where do you go from there?xx