1st Miscarriage - 12 weeks - My story - Support me pls

[BlancStar]

I went for my 12 week ultrasound scan last Wednesday 8/8/12 only to told my baby's heartbeat had stopped. My baby measured 10 weeks. My body had not realised that my baby had died & I was still having pregnancy symptoms like nausea and dizziness. My miscarriage was medically managed at hospital on Friday 10/8/12. I was told by a nurse my baby may be in a sac and unreconcilable. When I passed, I reconsigned everything, my baby's head and limbs, all no bigger than my thumb. My heat is breaking as this is ALL I see.

This is my second pregnancy, but my first miscarriage. I told all my family and some friends that I was expecting. I now feel a fool for being so complacent, assuming everything was going to be OK.

I have to go back to hospital on Friday for a scan to make sure my uterus is empty. I may have a tiny bit of placenta left in me. Finger crossed I pass it naturally & won't need it surgically removed. Until then I feel lost in limbo.

Thank you for reading my post. Thank you for letting join this group. I'm finding it an emotional release. When I read everyone posts my heart pours and cry and cry. Bless every beautiful Angel x

I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this.

The thing that helped me through my first miscarriage was the realisation that I wasn't alone. Suddenly every woman I knew seemed to be carrying around their own private sorrow around a pregnancy loss. Maybe sheer numbers don't make the pain easier, but the empathy from other women was truly awesome. Don't be afraid to talk about it, to grieve for the baby that wasn't to be. Your doctor or hospital can put you in touch with support groups if you want more professional support.

Blancstar I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I also had a mmc, in June, my baby's heart had stopped at 9+ weeks & I found out at 11.5wks. Like you, I still had all my pregnancy symptoms.

I was given the choice of medical management in hospital ( but would need to wait 5 days) or surgical management the next day, which I chose. I was too scared of having it naturally.

It is really hard, and these early days are very surreal. I'm 2 months down the line now & still have ups & downs.

We've not used contraception since the m/c but my cycle is up the spout since ERCP.

I just wanted to say how sorry I am & to say take care of yourself xxx

I am so sorry to hear your news - I had my miscarriage about a month ago when I was 9 weeks pregnant.

Allow yourself some time to grieve.
I then wanted to keep busy so went back to work quite soon, but I haven't been in touch with many friends (beyond a core of 4 many of whom have already miscarriages) as I don't want to have to re-live it all but wouldn't want to pretend it hadn't happened.

Time is a great healer and every week I feel stronger

Take care x