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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Early Pregnancy Scan after Miscarriage

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Chlosha · 30/07/2012 17:04

I had a miscarriage starting last Wednesday & have had two blood tests showing that I was miscarrying as the counts were very low. At the time that I first went into the doctors he rang EPAU in our local hospital & they have booked me in for tomorrow, should I still go to this to see of things have happened as they should of done or do I need to cancel this. I guess they will give me a scan to check this? Still so upset about it & now confused as to what to do? Hope someone can give me some advice.

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Pinkmummytobe · 30/07/2012 17:34

I'm sorry to hear your sad news, last year it happened to me, I'm know how hard it is but you need to see if everything has come away, it could causes complications if you try again! I hope everything goes well, don't be afraid to talk to people or even say goodbye to baby it helps! Good luck x

Geekster · 30/07/2012 17:52

Hi Chlosha, sorry to hear your news. It will be worth going tomorrow as pinkmummytobe said they need to make sure everything has come away and in a way it will give you closure to know there is nothing left so you can start the mental healing and grieving process. I hope you are okay.

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Chlosha · 30/07/2012 18:09

Thank you pinkmummytobe & geekster for replying:). This is what I thought but the doctor said to cancel it as it was a definate miscarriage:(, I thought then that I should go to see if everything had happened properly but my head was everywhere else apart from asking him about this. I think I will go anyway, for closure. Today has been really hard, I feel like doing nothing & am very teary, I can't seem to pull myself out of this today:(. This web site has helped me so much, & people like you two are so encouraging & helpful with advice. Thank you, it means a lot:)

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Pinkmummytobe · 30/07/2012 18:38

Anytime I know how hard it is! Good luck remember give your self time to heal mental and physically! It will happen for you one day! X

Geekster · 30/07/2012 20:34

Your welcome Chlosha. Don't worry about how you are feeling and don't think you have to pull yourself together it just takes time. You might find after tomorrow when you get some closure it might be slightly easier. It's that limbo that's the worst bit, just waiting just be kind to yourself it will get better in time, just doesn't feel like it at the moment. I had six miscarriages before I had my dd in march so you do feel better or wouldn't be able to keep trying.

Will be thinking about you tomorrow. Let us know how you get on (if you want to). We will be here for you.

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Chlosha · 30/07/2012 22:10

Thank you, will let you know:), you've really helped! Xx

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Geekster · 31/07/2012 19:17

Hi Chlosha glad I helped you just a shame it wasnt under better circumstances. How did you get on today, are you okay? Sending you a big hug x

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Chlosha · 31/07/2012 20:35

Hi Geekster, I got my days muddled & go at 10:45 tomorrow morning, silly me;)! It can't come soon enough tbh, I really can't believe you have had six! Your an inspiration & must be such a strong woman, did they find out why you kept miscarrying? I keep going over it in my head & the day before it happened I had to go to the doctors because my joints ached especially my wrists, they got swollen & my feet did, doctors mentioned arthritis & that was it. The next day when I started to bleed it got better? Can't help thinking was this a reaction or a cause? Guess I'll never know? I want to TTC as soon as I can as I am 38 & don't want to waste time:)! Xx

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Geekster · 31/07/2012 21:37

Hi Chlosha. Thanks for your kind words. I'm not that strong but was determind to have a baby! Wanted it too much to give in. They did find out why I was miscarrying. After the first three they did tests and found that one of my husbands chromosomes was upside down in one pair, the other was the right way round so if the wrong one paired up the most likely result would be early miscarriage. So 50/50 chance but then after another three we asked to be refered again. This time we went to st Mary's hospital I'm London who specialise in reccurent miscarriages. I had a blood test then it was repeats again after six weeks and they found my thromboelastogram was slightly high on one of them (no we don't know what a thromboelastogram is either, nor did the haematologist at our local hospital), anyway the upshot of it was I had to take two aspirin a day from as soon as I found out I was pregnant until 34 weeks. I did this the next time I was pregnant and the result was our dd was born in march.

I'm an older mum to was 39 when dd was born and just turned 40 at the beginning of July. One thing it might be worth noting for you is they told me afterwards that they often give women over 35 aspirin to take daily after miscarriages, just a thought might be worth you mentioning it to your doctor.

Hopefully next time you will be fine no reason why you shouldnt be. They only start doing tests when you have three consecutive ones.

Its perfectly normal to try and think why did it happen and there really is no rhyme or reason most of the time. The only thing I can tell you is it's not your fault and it's nothing you did or didn't do.

Will be thinking about you tomorrow hope you are okay. Big hug x

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Chlosha · 01/08/2012 08:36

Good for you:) so pleased that you finally had a DD:). That's really interesting, why do they make you wait so long before finding out what's wrong? You have been through so much bug never gave up, thank you for sharing your story, I am gonna try the asprin thing, looked it up as soon as I saw your post:). I am nervous about this morning but will just go do what I have to do & then try & move on. Can't believe it was a week ago today. Will let you know what happens & you really are an inspiration Geekster, you have certainly made me feel more positive! Xx

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Geekster · 01/08/2012 12:51

Hi Chlosha I hope evertything was okay this morning, well as okay as it can be. If you tak aspirin please ask and speak to you doctor first. I only took it as they told me to. I took 150mg a day but the usual dose while pregnant is 75mg.

I think they make you wait that long as miscarriage is unfortunately quite common in all women. So I suppose their way of thinking is after three there might be something else going on still sucks you have to go through it three times first though.

Hopefully you will be fine next time. I'm glad you feel a bit more positive now, just give yourself time. You know where I am if you want to 'talk' x

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Chlosha · 01/08/2012 16:58

Hi Geekster, everything was as expected & my blood levels have come right down to 2.2. Was really difficult cause even though I knew it had happened I was willing them to see something on the scan. I feel sad but like I can begin to move on. They told me I could start trying as soon as I am ready:). I won't take asprin till I have spoken to my doctor, it's really interesting though. Keep in touch, Xx

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Geekster · 01/08/2012 17:31

Hi Chlosha I'm glad you got sorted out. So sorry it was difficult. But it's like you say you always have that tiny bit of hope that you are still pregnant. Just look after yourself and allow yourself the time you need to get your head round it.

I really wish you the best of luck for next time xx

Geekster · 02/08/2012 20:55

Hi Chlosha, how are you doing today? Just wanted to let you know I've been thinking about you - not in a stalker kind of way- and I hope you are okay.

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Chlosha · 04/08/2012 19:58

Hi Geekster, how are you? I am slowly getting my head round what has happened & feeling a lot better but still have very teary moments. Guess I will always be thinking about how many weeks I would be as well! We have been told that it is fine for us to ttc straight away so that's what we are doing, it helps to know that I may if I am lucky fall pregnant again:). How have you been? Xx

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Geekster · 04/08/2012 20:29

Hi Chlosha, I'm glad you are feeling better. You will have teary moments all normal. You will think about how many weeks you would have been, again all normal. Hopefully you will conceive again quite quickly. It may help if you are pregnant again by the time you would have been due. I know that helped me. Think you are showing courage in trying ttc again straight away, always took me a few months. I had read somewhere that ttc straight after a miscarriage is a good thing both physically and emotionally. Did you mention about taking aspirin next time? I wish you the best of luck with ttc and hopefully you'll be back on these boards soon asking for tips with morning sickness and swollen ankles.

I've got my fingers crossed for you and sending good luck vibes. Xx

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