Lost baby at 6.5 weeks

[Sophiaarya]

I can't go to sleep because I can't stop thinking about what happened today. Can't believe that I had a mc. I know it's common but still freaked out. Scared to move in bed encase bleeding starts again. Feel like I could have prevented it somehow. The only thing that will get me up tomorrow is my 23 month old. Thinking maybe stress caused it?? Don't know how to feel right now. Want to bury head in sand. Tired but can't sleep.

Im so sorry, I have been through it also, can you get someone to come over?

I have nothing to say but how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I have never had mc, ep in 2010 around 7 weeks and I remember how heart breaking this was. Please give your oh a big squeeze, he may not understand how awful you feel but you sound like you really need a huge cuddle right now. Take care, sure others will be along soon who can help more, take care.

I didn't want to red and run.

When DH and I decided to get pregnant, it happened really fast.

Unfortunately I MC at about the same time as you. I was at work and they didn't know I was pregnant so I pretty much bought some pads and carried on.

I was lucky in that I fell pregnant quickly after with DS, and carried him to term.

But wanting to give him a brother or sister was a disaster. I lost count but I had at least 5 MCs. Please don't think I am trying to upset you further, but I know now, that Nothing I did or didn't do, made any difference to how viable the pregnancy was.

I now have a 7yo DS and a 3yo DD and the earlier pain has gone, truly.

God Bless, and I wish you every success in the path you are going down.

it doesnt matter how early on a mc happens it still hurts. in your head you have already mapped out your whole future with that child. sometimes theres no reason, these babies are just too fragile for this world.

i had a mmc at 14 wks with my 2nd pg. i felt because it was early that i didnt have the right to be upset as i was 'only14 wks'. i still think about it but it does get easier. take heart in the fact you carried dc1 with no probs and likely will have more (i went on to have 2 more with no probs and no more mc) :)

in the meantime take time to grieve and spoil yourself a bit x

Hi

I just wanted to say your not alone and I'm going through the exact same thing. I'm lying in bed gritting my teeth getting through the pain. Each day seems a bit easier and I am trying to look forward to the future. I know it's hard but you will get through it, we both will. Big hugs x

Hi, I am so sorry to hear of your loss:(. I am going through this to & it all started last Wednesday, I am deverstated & even though I know things happen for a reason I feel so sad. Everyone around me thinks it is easy to forget because it was early but I will never forget it & the pain. Hopefully time is a healer & we can both have healthy pregnacys next time. Have you anyone that is with you? Make sure you rest, cry when you need to & allow yourself time to grieve. Xx

Also very sorry to hear about your loss! I'm going through the same. Went for a scan last Tuesday and they couldnt find a heartbeat. baby was 7weeks old. They did a evacuation on thursday in theatre. Think here in SA they do things a bit different? they gave me a few sleeping tablets. I take them at night otherwise I think and think and think. Don't know if you believe in God but if you do, keep your eyes on Him. He will get you through. Look back and you will see one set of footprints. He is carying you. Good luck.

Thank you for the kind words and support. Had a scan today to check if the mc was 'clean'. Told I have a sac there still but they can't tell yet whether it is viable.... Need to go back in 2 weeks :( More confused than ever. I don't understand what is happening and I don't want to open my heart to believe in a positive ending. How can anything be viable with everything that happened on Saturday. I just need closure one way or another. I feell I am being tortured. slowly. Plus I wish I would stop bleeding! Finding it all too much atm.

so are they saying you are possibly still pg? what made you think you had had mc, the bleeding? i think its terrible that they've left you in limbo. id be asking for a second opinion. 2 wks is too long to wait either way :(

I'm really sorry to hear about your Mc. I had a miscarriage at 23weeks on April the 6th, we had a little boy and called him Riley-Lee people went around saying I aborted him it made me feel sick how people can go around saying things when you've been through the worst thong posible. everytime I read about someone having a miscarriage my heart drops. I'm pregnant again only 6weeks and I'm so scared I have a scan every month because they think I have a Weak cervix and I also need swabs as I had an infection in my placenta. Ive just turned 18, I see it as everytime something bad happens to me someone else is being left alone. I really hope you have all the support you need :)

A+e told me due to heavy blood loss I had lost the baby. At the scan was not expecting to be told that a sac was still there. As I am so early they don't know whether viable yet. They need to wait 2 weeks to check whether it has grown or whether has heart beat. My gp says still expect worse and may need d&c. Family have been great. XWas hoping to surprise them with good news. Not bad news. 9 days to go till scan and counting. We can't move on or deal with what has happened until we know what has happened.

This is the first time I have written on these boards and I am lifted by the support of others.

The uncertainty must be awful. Dont know what i can say except if the worst happens you will pull through and things do get easier. In the meantime we're here for you x

How are you doing sophiaarya? Hope your ok, Xx

Unfortunately it was a mc. But still
Incomplete. Fed up and need to put this behind me but cannot until my body has sorted itself out. Want to look forward to the future now.