Staying positive

[Chlosha]

Hi, I am currently going through a misscarriage, having a scan next week but expecting the worst. I am just wondering how you can move on from this when your future has just completely changed. I am so very sad & never expected this to happen:(

I'm I the same boat so can't give u any advice to be honest.
Mc on Friday and have not had a day with no tears yet. But showed my face at work and it did make me feel a little better.
Think the old cliche of time being a good healer applies.
I've no children so only thing that gets me happy at the moment is thought of trying again.
Hope u feel better soon x

Thank you for replying lolcbcb. My partner is really supportive but still feel alone, it's like it's happened move on but with all the cramps & appointments coming up I can't at the mo. so sorry for your loss, how far along were you? I'm like you it seem's very teary:(. Are you hoping to start trying straight away? I hope we get good positive pregnancy tests soon! Take care, x

Hi Hun
I was 7 weeks but as my cycles are longer than 28 data I could have been a little less than that.
Yes I am hoping to start again as soon as bleeding stops and I am in the mood for DTD lol.
It helped me today to go to work and tell people. Lots of hugs and tears but it's the end of the mystery as to why I have been off.
Have you had it fully confirmed yet?

I really feel for you:(. No not confirmed yet, another blood test tomorrow & scan Wednesday. I hope you feel better soon, it's so unfair. I am pretty sure I have completely got no chance of baby being there:(. The waiting is not nice. Please let me know if you have any good news in the future, wishing you loads of luck when you try again. Xx

Thanks hun.
Let us know how you get on as well. You never know, don't give up hope until the last minute! That makes the wait a little easier.
I'm waiting for body to get back to normal. Fingers crossed for both of us xx

I will, I think I know the outcome, would be a miracle if it was ok. I'm lying here wide awake & wishing I could just sleep to forget it. Keep in touch, big hugs to you! Xx

Hi so sorry you are both going through this. I had a mmc in December at 11 weeks, the waiting a week between scans was hard as I too was clinging onto a sliver of hope that the first scan was wrong or the bleeding was explainable. I had an erpc which i thought was best for me as I just wanted it to be over. I bled for 10 days and didn't really have any pain.

I was desperate to start trying immediately and did so although looking back kind of wish I hadn't as I became like a woman possessed, i was obsessed and every month when af turned up was like a knife. I have 2ds so am very lucky but they were both conceived first cycle so although it did only take 4 cycles for me to conceive again it felt like an eternity.

If you want to ask any questions, please do, nothing is tmi

Give yourself time and be kind to yourselves. Xx

Hi Dinosaurdrip, thanks so much for replying, makes me feel better to have contact with people who have been through the same thing. I have had it confirmed that I definitely lost the baby:(, been very painful with stomach cramps, easing today tho. Just feel very sad & emotional. I have two girls from my previous marriage & they are 13 & 10, fell very quickly when trying to conceive them with no problems so guess back then I was lucky. I would like to start trying straight away or as soon as I feel upto it but doctor said wait a cycle, is it best to do that? Are you pregnant now & how long did you wait before you started trying? Xx
Hi Lolcbcb, as you can see from above I lost the baby:(. How are you doing? Xx

Hi, I'm so very sorry that this has happened. Is someone with you? The next few days will probably be really tough but dont ever blame yourself (i did) its such an emotional time but it does get easier. I still have down days now, especially last month when everyone forgot it was the due date (even DP) it's ok to be sad.

I think sometimes drs advise to wait one cycle to make dating a pregnancy easier. My dsis had a mc and got pregnant straight away but because her cycle wasn't back to normal and she had no period In between she was 3 weeks out with her dates. No problems though and she has a gorgeous little boy now. I think some people say to wait as there is more chance of mc again, this as far as I know is unfounded and if you are ready then I say go for it. I started trying straight away but really wish I had left it a while as it put a lot of pressure on myself and DP and the whole trying became like a chore, especially for him because I just wanted to be pregnant again and didn't really make the effort like I did before iykwim.

I am 19weeks pregnant now and as I said it took 4 cycles I am obviously ecstatic but feel petrified of anything happening so my happiness is kind of clouded.

It is nice to talk to people who have been through the same and it's good to keep talking too (don't bottle it all up). Get yourself stationed on the sofa with some strong painkillers and someone to run around after you. Eat loads of shit food and cry as much as you like. Xx

Hi chlosh
I'm so so sorry it has happened to you too.
Life sucks sometimes!
I'm feeling a little better. Today is my first day blood free but I still feel physically and emotionally drained.
Went back to work on thu and told everyone. Cried a lot but also felt good to get hugs from people that went through same thing.
Trying to see if I can spot ov and if so will try to get in mood for DTD. Think DH is scared to touch me- bless!
Are u letting it happen naturally? Are u in pain???
Next few days will be shit- no point pretending otherwise. But give yourself time to grieve and cry a lot. For me that is helping xx

Thank you both so much!!!!! Means so much to talk to people who knows how it feels, which is awful. I'm taking painkillers & resting as much as I can, nights seem to be worse with the cramps, think I am over the worst of it but still cramping especially down the front of my legs. We will try again as soon as we can but guess if I do fall again I'll be petrified it'll happen again! My partner is with me doing his best, must be hard for him to. Wow 19 weeks!!!!! Very exciting times, stay positive & keep me posted on how you are:), so very pleased for you! I am letting it happen naturally & feel I am over the worst of it had very bad stomach cramps to the point where I nearly called the doctor but has eased now. I woke up this morning crying:(, it hit me all over again that I wasn't pregnant anymore, crying a lot at the moment & yes blaming myself. I hope you both stay in touch with me as you have been such a comfort & would be lovely to hear of how things are going for you both! Xx