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late miscarriage help!! please need to talk

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alyak2011 · 22/07/2012 18:55

Hiya everyone never postedo n a site like this but just looking for people to talk to. Let me explain, last week i thought i had terrible constipation, i phoned my midwife and was told to take paracetamol to ease the pain and if this didnt work go to my nearest walk in. Needless to say i did this and ended up at my nearest walk in (hospital number 1) i was told i was in labour and rushed via ambulance to another hospital about 16 miles away (hospital number 2) i was given an internal and told i was 9cm dialiated,they sad my waters where bulging and causing me to be dialated. Hours and hours passed then my waters finally broke,instantaneous the pain went and i was told i had gone back down to 3cm dialated. I was then rushed via ambulance to another hospital more equipped (hospital number 3) they did several scans and babys heartbeat was fine and strong,yet still no more contractions. Afew more hours passed and they came back!! did another scan and babys heartbeat was really weak. I was told i could have an injection to help lung unprovement bt never got it. I was then told baby had no chance of survival if born before 24 weeks, (my son was 23weeks+2 days) and that he was going to die. Surely enough he did and i then had to give birth.

Its a really hard thing to deal with because i myself was born at 24 weeks and not only survived but im fully healthy. None of the doctos knew what caused me to go into labour and it all to happen (backwards) as they said, contractions,waters brokw,no contractions, then contractions etc

I have a funeral director coming to see me this week to arrange burial as post mortem has now been done, this was my 1st baby, i just dont know what to do.how can my son be classed as a late miscarraige, when it was nothing like that!! he was perfect just tiny! like his mummy!

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swampster · 22/07/2012 23:29

I just want to say how sorry I am for your loss. Please try not to dwell on horrible classifications. The medical world can be very far removed from the real world of people with feelings and emotions. He is your son. I am so sorry he didn't make it. What have you named him?

alyak2011 · 23/07/2012 07:53

i named him danny ray :)

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helenlouisey · 23/07/2012 12:11

I am so sorry for your loss of your little boy. Our best friends lost a little boy at 30 weeks and I know they had a lot of support & help from the charity SANDS & believe they went along to some support groups with other families who had gone through the same devastating loss. Thinking & praying for you & your little man x x x

fanjodisfunction · 23/07/2012 18:08

So sorry to hear your story. Its such a hard thing to come to terms with, take everyday as it comes, let the grief carry you.
My daughter Ophelia was stillborn last year at 36 weeks.

There is a wonderful thread in the bereavment section where us Angel mums talk, and support each other after the loss of our children.

fanjodisfunction · 23/07/2012 18:10

Its called love like starlight. Sorry can't link I'm on my phone.

alyak2011 · 23/07/2012 18:41

thank you hun ive found it and made a post :) i appreciate the comments xx

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