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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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empty sac, waiting to miscarry. Advice Pls

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randomswitch · 18/07/2012 21:04

I had slight bleeding on Monday and when I went for a scan today was told the sac was empty with no yolk, there was no real hope and I should wait to miscarry. I am about 5 t 6 weeks along. I have to go back for a scan next week to confirm. I cannot bear to just sit around waiting to miscarry and I understand this can last for weeks. The leaflet they gave me talked about surgical removal but I don't want this as I want to go consciously go through the miscarriage so that I psychologically & emotionally know I am no longer pregnant. I was thinking of asking for the abortion pill or something similar so that I can control the end of things and make it happen sooner. Does anyone know if this is possible?

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Smellyanne · 22/07/2012 22:42

Maybe we should start a " going to start TTC straight away " thread lol thats certainly whats helping to keep me going at the moment.The thought of getting to next March without being pregnant again is unbearable :-( fingers crossed for us both .

jessiethecowgirl · 23/07/2012 09:02

I would definitely join that thread smellyanne! :)

woody17 · 23/07/2012 10:59

Me too - I would definitely join!

Geekster · 23/07/2012 11:44

Hi all I've just joined today and I feel for what you are going through with the horror of miscarriage. I just wanted to give a bit of positivity if possible at such a horrible time. I has six miscarriages before we finally had our daughter in March this year. It is horrible going for a scan to be told you are no longer pregnant. Mine were all before twelve weeks. The first one came away naturally but was horribly painfully and was bleeding heavily and couldn't move off the loo for six hours, I'm not trying to scare anyone, after that six hours the pain and bleeding did settle down. For the second one I had a d&c which physically was much better didn't have the pain and bleeding I had to have it on Christmas eve. The other four were fairly early and I didn't have to many problems physically. I know it is easy for me to say now, but keep trying and I really hope you are lucky next time. There are no answers to how best to continue with a missed miscarriage it is whatever you need yourself. I hope you go for your scan today randomswitch as even though you have started bleeding they can put your mind at ease that there is nothing left. Just because it was an early miscarriage doesn't make it any easier to deal with and you need to allow yourself time to grieve. Sorry for rambling on and I hope you are okay.

woody17 · 23/07/2012 20:33

Thanks geekster it helps to hear positive stories. Hope you are ok.

posypoo · 24/07/2012 09:56

Hello everyone

Well I had my last scan yesterday, and it's a complete miscarriage. Like Geekster said it was good to go and put my mind at rest, and has helped I think. The doctor said she thought it was 'bad luck' and that it's fine to go ahead and ttc again. The leaflet she gave me said there's no medical reason to wait to ttc, though she advised one cycle. Is this just so we know what's going on with our cycles do you reckon?

How are you doing smellyanne and random? Hope you're OK. I would also join that thread btw. My DH is also ridiculously rational. I got a cuddle, a 'well these things happen', and a £20 note to take my DD out for the day!

Geekster · 24/07/2012 10:13

Thanks woody I'm ok, I was lucky that eventually we did have a successful pregnancy.

Another thing I'd like to say is if you are unlucky enough to have three consecutive miscarriages make sure you get referred for tests. We did and it was found that one of my husbands chromosomes on one pair was upside down. The other in the pair was ok so they said we should be ok eventually. The chromosome abnormality was most likely to end in early miscarriage if it went to term the baby would be severely brain damaged. We then went on to have another three miscarriages so asked to be referred again as you would think one of the six would have been okay. Our local hospital refers us to the reccurent miscarriage clinic at st Mary's hospital in paddington London. I had further blood tests and they found one of mine called a thromboelastogram was slightly up on one test I had it done twice six weeks apart the other one was ok. They said I had to take two aspirin a day once I found out I was pregnant until 36 weeks. Next time I was pregnant I did and the result was our daughter was born in march healthy and well. Although I was nervous all through the pregnancy that she might be born brain damaged. I could have had a CVS but to test for the chromose but declined I couldnt risk miscarriage from that. If we hadn't been refered again we would never have found out and might never have had a successful pregnancy. The doctors found it too easy to become fixated on the chromosomal issue and couldnt see the wood for the trees. So be persistent it pays off.

I wish good luck to all on this thread.

jessiethecowgirl · 24/07/2012 10:29

posy I also had a scan yesterday to confirm that everything had been expelled, and it had. So was a complete miscarriage. The consultant said everything looked fine and healthy, and that we could begin TTC right away, although they advise one cycle for dating purposes. So DH and I are just going to DTD every other day from now until AF, and maybe we'll be lucky and conceive, and if not we can start again a new cycle, and this time track days, etc.

Am sorry Geekster to hear of all your recurrent miscarriages, I can't imagine what that would have been like, but so happy to hear of your healthy DD born in march, congrats!

Would be very happy for someone to start a new thread for our group of 'TTC after recent MC' :) Would start myself except fairly new to mumsnet and don't know how lol

posypoo · 24/07/2012 11:25

Gosh Geekster what an ordeal you have been through. How horrible that all must have been for you. I am so pleased for you that you have a beautiful healthy girl now. How are you enjoying motherhood?

Jessi glad your scan went ok too. I am pleased there is no medical reason to wait. I am really not good at that!! That's a great idea ref a new thread, I will see if I can do it...

posypoo · 24/07/2012 11:29

Ooh look, I did it!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1524890-TTC-after-recent-MC

For anyone who is feeling ready :)

Geekster · 24/07/2012 12:03

Hi possypoo I am loving motherhood. I go to get her out of her cot in the morning and she gives me the biggest grin. I still have to pinch myself at times that she's real and not just another dream. She was so worth the heartache that went before her. I can't imagine what my life would have been like without her.

Hi Jessie am glad your scan was okay in the sense that at least you know and I wish you and the other couples that go through miscarriage the best of luck for next time.

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