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Hope I can give someone hope

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Dramajustfollowsme · 17/07/2012 21:26

I suffered a series of early miscarriages 3 in 2 years. I then fell pregnant again and first scan went well. However at my 20 weeks they found my little boy had a body stalk anomaly and hydrocephalus. There was no hope. I was induced and on 29th April 2010 at 3:05pm Archie arrived sleeping.
I was totally broken. Having had early miscarriages, I really thought that pregnancy was going to work out. I had had a little bump and even felt a wee flutter.
We decided to give ourselves sometime to recover from the loss and stopped ttc. In fact, we hardly dtd at all.
In September 2010 I started feeling like I was pregnant. I couldn't see how it was possible but I just had a niggling feeling. Well that and sore boobs, indigestion and sudden hatred of the smell of my perfume.
I did a test and got a bfp. I did several more before I believed it. I immediately went and got a prescription for a higher dose of folic acid. That had been recommended after Archie. My due date was given as 26th May and I was so glad that it was quite far from the anniversary.
This pregnancy was a complete nightmare. Sickness, sore back and pelvis, blood clot and finally my waters breaking at 34 weeks.
I didn't go straight into labour and because it was so early they decided to just monitor me on bedrest for as long as possible to cook this baby as much as possible.
Of course, as fate would have it, after 2 weeks of all my stats being normal my temperature started going up on the 28th of April 2011.
They decided to induce me and I thought well at least I'll have my baby before Archie's birthday. However things didn't progress quickly. So whilst the rest of the country was watching Kate and Wills get married I was on a drip and gas and air!
Eventually at 3:05pm on 29th April 2011, my beautiful little girl came screaming into the world.
The 29th of april suddenly went from being a sad day to the best day ever. What a difference a year makes. No one could believe that it was even the exact same time.
So please, if your world has collapsed as you have lost your precious baby, know that dreams can eventually come true.
Megan is nearly 15 months now and is a feisty little whirlwind of fun. I'll never forget Archie and she will be told every day how special she is to us. When she is older, I'll explain about her big brother. I've never been particularly religious but I believe somebody wanted that day to be full of joy instead of sorrow.

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mummy2midget · 17/07/2012 21:30

What a happy story, made me cry both kind of tears Sad Smile. Your wee girl is almost exactly the same age as mine Smile. All the best and I hope she is repairing the whole left in your heart by the loss of Archie xx

Dramajustfollowsme · 17/07/2012 21:41

She does every single day. She was only 2 hours old when a midwife said she was strong willed. She has remained that way!! It is great that her personality is coming out now. She is so mischievous and funny.
We are thinking about trying for another one. I'm just not sure if I can face more miscarriages. It is so tricky. I don't want her to be an only child. I hated being an only until my sister arrived when I was 11. But I'm just not very good at being pregnant. Just have to keep our fingers crossed.

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curlyLJ · 17/07/2012 22:14

That is such a lovely story - thank you for sharing. I found out on Monday at my 8w scan (early scan due to IVF) that my beanie didn't make it and I have been searching for answers and reasons that nobody can give me. You never think a m/c is going to happen to you, until it does, and then it is heartbreaking in a way that I think only those that have suffered it can understand.
Although I already have a DD, it doesn't make this any easier, but I found your story really inspirational and it has made me feel better this evening.
xx

kittykatsforever · 17/07/2012 22:27

Beautiful story x

notsoold · 18/07/2012 08:38

thank you for sharing!! I need that!!!x

satinandsilk · 18/07/2012 21:08

What a lovely story, thank you for sharing. You deserve every happiness. One thing about recurrent miscarriage and loss, is that those who are lucky enough to come through it and eventually have a healthy baby treasure their baby so much more...I will never forget or lose the feeling of elation of my daughter arriving safely, following four miscarriages in a row.

Dramajustfollowsme · 19/07/2012 21:29

I agree that I doubt any drug could replicate the elation of being handed a pink, snuggly new born after so much disappointment. Even if she did immediately pee all over me!

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Zacsmum80 · 19/07/2012 22:11

What a lovely story. Its given me hope for the future. Thanks for sharing x

cheeseandmushroomtoastie · 19/07/2012 23:29

Lovely story Smile

onemoreforgoodmeasure · 20/07/2012 18:46

"if your world has collapsed as you have lost your precious baby"

thanks for what you've written.

AThingInYourLife · 20/07/2012 18:54

How lovely :)

I'm torn between welling up and laughing that such a moving story ends with you covered in wee :o

Best of luck to you and your family :)

fanjodisfunction · 23/07/2012 18:19

Thank you for giving me hope.

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