Miscarriage 9 1/2 weeks - what to expect now?

[grainmum]

I was 10 weeks pregnant yesterday (first pregnancy) and went for a private dating scan yesterday for various reasons. I measured 9 1/2 weeks but no heartbeat. I'm expecting a phonecall from the early pregnancy unit tomorrow with an appointment and plan to ask for medical management - what can I expect next? How soon after the medication can I expect to start miscarrying?

Hi, So so srry this has happened to you.

Its so unfair.

Cant remember the specifics, but as given a tablet, then another a day or so after then went into hospital for a medication to soften my cervix, bleeding started quite quickly after that.

I was given morphine, and gas & air. It lasted about 12 hours all together.
I found it very painful, but from what i can gather, i am unusual as most people can manage with less strong pain relief.

Hopefully this will be true for you. x

Hi so sorry my love, know how it feels, very unfair.

I opted to have an ERPC....tbh...I found dealing (mentally) with that a lot easier than the alternative. I was in hospital from 8am until 8pm, did feel like I'd been run over by the time I went home. You do still bleed - bled for about 2 weeks, but you won't find any nasty clots/surprises whilst on the toilet, which is what scared me if I'm honest. Just an incredibly heavy period.

This was my experience in any case. x

Thanks for the replies, it's good to know some people's experiences. I've found a really useful information sheet on the miscarriage association web-site which helps to think about the options. In the meantime, I feel like a time-bomb...... Had a nice distraction with a friend and her daughter visiting this afternoon, then going to work in the morning so won't have too much time to think about things.

Its so shit :( sorry this has happened.I had a missed miscarriage in Feb at 13 wks,baby had died at 9,I had to go into hospital as was having bad contractions.I then had an ERPC which for me was thdm better choice as didnt want to deal with 'seeing anything' or any more pain.The procedure was painless and had hardly any bleeding after,just needed to wear a panty liner for a few days.Had no pain after at all. It was the emotional side that took longer to heal.On a positive note I am now 15 wks pregnant again n all is going well,if u want to email me any questions please feel free x x x

Its so shit :( sorry this has happened.I had a missed miscarriage in Feb at 13 wks,baby had died at 9,I had to go into hospital as was having bad contractions.I then had an ERPC which for me was thdm better choice as didnt want to deal with 'seeing anything' or any more pain.The procedure was painless and had hardly any bleeding after,just needed to wear a panty liner for a few days.Had no pain after at all. It was the emotional side that took longer to heal.On a positive note I am now 15 wks pregnant again n all is going well,if u want to email me any questions please feel free x x x

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It really is shite & so unfair.

I had a missed miscarriage 6 weeks ago, was measuring 9+1 at 11+5. Only had the tiniest flecks of blood & loss of symptoms to alert me.

I was advised against having the m/c at home, as it would be too painful/messy to manage. I was also worried about the unpredictability of natural m/c & trying to look after a toddler. Plus I'd already been going about with a dead baby inside me for 2 weeks; I didn't want to wait any longer.

My hospital said I would have to wait 5 days until the weekend for medical management on a ward, I was frightened nature would intervene in the meantime.

So I chose surgical management, there was a place on the list the next day. I've had 2 ERCP's now & found them absolutely fine, very little pain or bleeding after & was definitely the better option for me.

Good luck with whatever you decide; I hope things go as well for you as they can xx

I had the same thing happen. I went to the hospital on Saturday for the first lot of medication, had a little bit of bleeding but not much. Went back on Monday for the second lot of medication & the miscarriage came on that afternoon. The bleeding was heavy but not as horrific as I'd expected. Was all over by the Wednesday.
Feel free to PM me if you have any more questions, nothing too personal I promise.

Not sure my last sentence makes much sense, what I mean is you can ask me anything.

Thanks HelsBels that's reassuring. I think I'd prefer medical management; going to the hospital for consultation tomorrow, but hoping they'll let me wait until Saturday to have first lot of medication then go back on Monday like you - DH is away overnight Wednesday this week then working 9am-10pm Fri, Sat and Sun so I'd rather have the worst bits when I know he's around.

Am sure they will do that, I know they wanted to ensure someone was with me when I had mine.

As I said feel free to PM me any questions either now or later, mine was last October & I'm now 7 months pregnant again so I'm not overly sensitive about it, I won't be offended.

Congratulations! Good to have hope for the future too!

Hope you get on ok tomorrow, will be thinking of you x

Hello, thanks everyone. Had an appointment at the early pregnancy unit yesterday, after a short rant about a private scan provider they hadn't heard of and who had the contract for this aftercare, everything went very smoothly and they were very kind. Booked in for medical management Saturday and Monday when DH is around. Glad things are organised now but would really like to get it over with. Anyway, 3 whole days at work should keep me distracted for a while, then meeting a friend on Saturday and another on Sunday.

Hope the next few days pass quickly for you.

Well I've survived the week at work with only one major melt-down, and even that I think stayed relatively within my own room. Tomorrow I'm off the the early pregnancy unit for my mifepristone.

Grainmum, I'm glad you managed to get through the days at work; I was so distressed after my 1st m/c that I couldn't wait in the days leading up to the ERCP.

I hope you're managing to take it easy this weekend & that Monday goes as ok as it can - take care of yourself x

I found that work helped keep my mind occupied, but I hope it doesn't make things worse for me in the long-term. I suspect the reality will hit on Monday. I've stocked up on snacks and a magazine, I'll get a Sunday newspaper tomorrow to take with me tomorrow and make sure that my MP3 is charged.

In the meantime I'm trying to motivate myself to do some packing - we move house (and city) on 30th July.

Thinking of you today xxx

Thanks. It was a lot better than I expected and bleeding today is less than I expected too. DH has been on annual leave today so we've had a nice long lie, a short contemplative stroll in the hills and nice lunch - now home to do some more of the moving admin!

Glad to hear that things went ok, and that you've had some time with your DH.

I found that I could start to move on once it was over, In some ways, it was a relief. although it's no consolation in some ways.

A house move will take your mind off things too.

And if you can have a positive thing to focus on, it really helps - in my case we booked a last-minute break away.

Take it easy & hope your move goes well.