Help needed, delicate situation

[Insorrow]

I apologise in advance that posting here might cause distress to those who are struggling with their own problems. I don't know what else to do.

I found out that I am pregnant a couple of weeks ago. I'm 7 weeks. We've had our share of difficulties so this is a very much longed for baby and I pray it can continue but what should be happy news for our families has been overshadowed (sorry, poor choice of words) by my poor sister's baby's stillbirth which happened last week. She is really struggling and although our family and faith is very strong and supportive, she is really at rock bottom (understandably). I hope to god she will be able to be ok in time.
I would do anything to protect her and I've always looked after her but now she has been somewhere so hellish I can't even begin to imagine her despair.

How am i ever to tell family our news? i pray that my baby is healthy and the pregnancy will proceed normally but at the same time 'ive been visited by thoughts that it would be better and kinder for my sister if i miscarried, before 12 weeks so that nobody need know.

If there are women out there who have been through anything like this and feel able to share, i would be very grateful to hear how you got through it.

Hi insorrow and what a predicament!!!
Really feel for your family, what a terrible time you must all be having.
I have not been in your situation although when I found out I was pg, my bf was about to have ivf and I worked out shed be doing the test when I was 12 wks, I decided to tell her early so if it didn't work I wouldn't be then oh sorry but btw im 12wks!!! That way it wasn't quite as close, in your situation I'd wait until the 12 wk scan, know everything is fine then go and tell her face to face first, she doesn't need to hear it from anyone else! Also it gives a few weeks of space and you also know where you stand, god forbid anything was wrong but it would be unesasary extra worry for her and family before, that puts alot of stain on you but you can always come on here for support and advice!
Others may be able to advise better in this situation but this would be my advice,.
P.s congratulation!!!!! It is a wonderful thing to happen to you even in uncertain times

Hi and congratulations on your pregnancy. I recently lost my baby at 5 months and I agree with Kitty - get yourself to 12 weeks and then make her the first person you tell, face to face if you can. Then back off for a bit and let her come to terms with it.
You deserve this baby just as she deserved hers, so please don't have those thoughts. Life is cruel and unfair but that's not your fault. You sound like a lovely, caring sister. Prepare yourself that she may feel she has to distance herself a bit from you to protect herself, as I have had to do from pregnant friends - it won't be forever. And I hope you can find some joy in your pregnancy, how hard for you that it has been overshadowed by your sister's terrible loss.