I'm trying to conceive after still birth...

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It's now just 13 weeks since our darling daughter Elsie was born sleeping. I am 40 years old and have been told we should start trying soon to give ourselves the best chance of making a family.

I am scared and emotionally ruined from what has happened but know I really need to get a grip of this if I want to have a life with children. I have only had one period so far but know as each month passes I must start to try!

Please can anyone out there help me to frame this in a positive way. Someone did send me a message saying they got pregnant very soon after a still birth and it was scary and hard but they were getting through it in a positive way, but I can't find them here... I guess no time to start will be the right time, and I can really hardly imagine actually growing another baby in me right now. Seeing old photos of me with my huge bump just rips my heart out. How can I be brave... How can I speed up the grieving and get strong?

If you have had a still birth or neo natal death and went on soon after to be pregnant again, and were older... Can you get in share any advice for one struggling, scared, worried woman.

Thanks ladies... Apologies if this is in the wrong forum section, couldn't find where to write it.

Lots of love.

Xx

hi, very sorry for your loss. I lost my son in 2015 at 27 weeks. I waited 18 months to try again. Tbh it is only just now over two years on that i aren't completely distraught iver my son so i guess what i'm trying to say is i dont know how much of a difference waiting would make emotionally.

You will get great care in your next pregnancy. sands are also a valuable support.

My last pregnancy ended at 14+2 but i actually coped surprisingly better than i expected. I just kept telling myself nothing could be worse than a stillbirth and also if ive done it once and got through it i could do it again.

sorry i know im a bit all over the place with my words but hopefully some of that makes sense / helps.

So sorry for your loss.

Thank you for your kind words.

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