feeling the pressure/unsure about doctor - bit of a long one

[sweetlucy]

After a very healthy pregnancy, I lost a little boy at 37 weeks. Completely unexplained, my baby just stopped moving one day. As anyone who lost a baby will know, a very sad and traumatic experience.

I am now approaching the end of a second pregnancy. I'm going to be 37 weeks on Friday. I am extremely worried and nervous. I have consulted many different doctors in order to find out how soon I could be induced and if there was a risk of me losing the baby.

All have told me that there was a risk but that it was rather unlikely and that it was safer for the baby that I waited until 38 weeks to be induced. Although I worry every minute that might baby might die, I decided to wait the 38 weeks.

Yesterday I went to see the consultant at the hospital. I'd never seen him before and he just started at this hospital. Without any information other than a 5 minute chat with me, he told me it was VERY likely I would lose this baby if I went passed 37 weeks, that he didn't want to wait and wanted me to be admitted this Friday. I can't understand why all the other doctors advised me to wait and this one is rushing me so much.
Also if I get induced on Friday and something goes wrong, I will have an emergency caesarian. It would most probably have to be on Saturday or Sunday night. I feel hospitals are rather understaffed at week ends and feel it's better to wait until Monday. But this doctor really scared me. My midwife is on holiday, I have no one else to consult about this and Friday is fast approaching.
I really don't know what to do!

Oh Lucy
So sorry for your loss of your last baby and how horrid that this doctor has scared/panicked you even more than you already were.

I haven't been in this situation so no advice I'm afraid but I wish you all the luck and keeping my fingers crossed for the safe delivery of your baby.

Is there another midwife you could ask?

xx

thank you purple.

I couldn't sleep all night because of what he said, spent my time waiting for my baby to move.
He contradicted every doctor I have spoken to and was so sure I shouldn't wait or I had huge chance to lose my baby.

I'm seeing a private obstetrician on friday, see what he says.

I really just want to give you a hug Lucy.

I can't believe that after all these doctors this one goes and says that and it must be awful thinking "is he wrong or everyone else" it only takes 1 doctor to put the doubt and worry in your mind which isn't good for either of you.

Good luck tomorrow and I really hope everything is ok.

xx

Lucy what an awful situation. I?m so sorry for your loss. And now this doctor scaring the hell out of you without properly explaining the situation?. that?s just not acceptable. I absolutely think you?re doing the right thing getting a second opinion. It might even be worth asking if you can get a 2nd opinion within the NHS as well. According to the NHS website: ?You can ask your GP or another healthcare professional for a second opinion. Although you do not have a legal right to a second opinion, a healthcare professional will rarely refuse to refer you for one?. Good luck tomorrow and with the birth x

purple, spicy mum and maples, thank you so much for your replies!

I haven't had a good night sleep since seeing the doctor at the hospital. I just spend my whole time waiting for my baby to move and I'm always scared.
I spoke to my midwife who offered a bit of reassurance, and this morning I went to see the private doctor. He checked everything was fine with the baby, listened to my concerns and told me that in his opinion it was best to wait 1 or 2 weeks more before being induced.
He said that at 37 weeks, the chances of things going wrong were greater than at 38 or 39 weeks.
He also said I should insist for them to monitor the heartbeat more regularly until the birth. I feel a bit let down by the nhs, I was told that after a stillbirth they would really keep a close eye on me and they haven't. Worst still, I'm left to deal with an unprofessional doctor who tried to push me to do something that could potentially have catastrophic consequences.
What would have happened if I couldn't afford a private visit? I would have been pushed in a situation that could have put me or my baby at risk.

It's just not right!