Trying to hold it together after mc but if anyone says well you have 2 healthy children again might throw them out the window!!!!!

[zoeymlucas]

I found out I was expecting a few weeks ago with a due date of Christmas day which must be one of the worst due dates ever as I already know my xmas is going to be filled with heart break of the baby I was meant to hold that day.

People think they are being supportive but the comment 'well you already have 2 healthy children so should be greatful' is starting to push every button I have!!!!!!!! I am grateful for my boys and as they were both prem (one at 28 week and one at 33) they both fough hard to be here and I am grateful for them everyday. But that does not take away the pain I am feeling right now. This was a baby in its own right and because I have 2 children whom I love only make sit harder as I look at them and think about what I missing. But it seems that eople think cos you have children already you should get over it!!

Sorry to rant but had to somewhere :(

zoey, I have had that comment after my baby daughter died at 7 weeks old, so sadly I know all about the feeling of wanting to punch someone's lights out when they say that! People really can be so insensitive.

Zoey - I totally understand what your saying it's a running theme from doctors, gp, nurses and the general public and friends!!!
I have been pregnant 6 times and have 3 children my last 2 losses was last year June and 15 days ago in which I also lost a tube and am at home recovering wandering if I should go on birth control! To prevent this all again!

I am sorry to hear about your losses, I am just having a rant as I only miscarried a week ago and it seems that if you have heathy kids already people just expect you to forget it when I think it's worse as you know what that baby would of been like.

Zoey - we come here to rant and say things we may want to say in RL but can't. the support is great here!
Feel free to share as much or as little as you want, it's good to know there are people out there going through the same things as you!
Take care of you!

Zoey I'm so sorry :(
I also hate it when people say that. Along with "it's nature's way/it's for the best", and "you'll have another one soon", as if another baby will be some sort of replacement. I'm in the same situation, just mc'ed after 2nd pg. Of course I am thankful for my dc but that doesn't stop me mourning the one I've just lost.