Have been having natural MC at home and been getting lots of wonderful support here on MN ('Waiting for natural miscarriage' thread) from wonderful ladies all going through horrid times.
Thought was doing well and over the worst but started to lose blood heavily about 5 pm. Had lost what i thought was pregnancy sac on Fri night so knew something wasn't right and had also been warned by other MNetter to watch out for heavy loss and feeling faint. DP rang some friends to come and get are DCs. Awful as hadn't even told anyone I was pregnant! Put nappy in pants and sat on towel in car and raced to A and E.
By the time we got there my trousers and the towel were saturated and I could feel that I had passed something sizable into the nappy. Sat bawling, dripping with blood in public waiting area waiting to be seen. ( Bloody Bank Hol weekend!) DP gave my details in at desk and we were eventually taken to a private room by woman (nurse?) who seemed oblivious to the state I was in. I desperately wanted to empty contents of my pants and be looked at as was still pouring blood and felt very traumatized but instead she was more interested in checking my address and DOB again.She then asked me to go to go to loo in public waiting area to do a urine sample.
Dripping blood, for all to see, I went to loo and found something the size of a baby rabbit in nappy. (lLater learnt that this was just a gigantic blood clot.)Tried to wee into paper bowl but basically just passed more blood and another clot into it. My DP stuck head out of loo to ask what next. Unbelievably the dippy woman had left us and gone off shift! I was swaying by this point ready to pass out. Eventually a lovely nurse took control and got me into a patient room with a bed and hooked me up to a drip. She took some bloods to be checked for Hb levels and said a dr would be with me soon. I thought best to point out that we had left public loo like a crime scene with god knows what in a nappy on the floor.
Lovely young f Dr arrived and examined me. She said she could see that I had something stuck in the entrance of my cervix which she would try and remove manually.( I had already said how much I did not want a D and C.) This was v painful and caused to me start gagging. Thankfully it came out and it seems this was the main pregnancy product so god knows what I lost the other night.
Dr went to get her Registrar for advice on next move etc. She came back in with male Registrar. His comments floored me. Now, I understand that somebody who is not English may sound abrupt when they do not intend to. He basically said, '' So.. you have come here because you are losing a lot of blood. You have chosen to have a natural MC when you were given other options. This is what happens - you lose alot of blood.'' I felt utterly patronized. Options of oral medication and theater discussed again. I did not want this and said so.
Nurse came back in to take bloods again as others had coagulated in tube as not processed quick enough. Great. She said she had 'never known a hospital like it' and 'was going to complain'.
I then had ultrasound with Dr and registrar. (Not possible to have internal scan till Tues). Registrar said looked pretty clear but there was a slight 'grey area' at one side which could be womb lining still to come away. Again talks of tablets and theater. My reasoning to wait was that now the cervix was unblocked and still 4cm dilated I would like to hang on as may lose more naturally. He clearly thought I was unhinged but said it was my choice. He insisted on waiting for blood results which fortunately came back fine= Hb of 12. Blood loss had slowed down and I chose to leave on the promise i would return if heavy loss again.
I understand I have taken a risk but in any case I feel v weak and not up to being induced into labour state. I will go to EPU on Tues and have internal scan and take it from there.
(Sorry for epic post) x