I love Little Snowdrop:
The world may never notice
If a Snowdrop doesn't bloom,
Or even pause to wonder
If the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way
For all eternity.
The little one we longed for
Was swiftly here and gone.
But the love that was then planted
Is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty,
Our hearts know what to do.
For every beating of our hearts
Says that we love you.
And My Mum Is A Survivor:
My Mum is a survivor,
or so I?ve heard it said.
But I can hear her crying at night
when all others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand.
She doesn?t know I?m with her
to help her understand.
But like the sands on the beach
that never wash away?
I watch over my surviving mum,
who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others?
a smile of disguise!
But through Heaven?s door I see
tears flowing from her eyes.
My mum tries to cope with death
to keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows
it is her way to survive.
As I watch over my surviving mum
through Heaven?s open door?
I try to tell her that angels
protect me forevermore.
I know that doesn?t help her?
or ease the burden she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her?
and show her that you care.
For no matter what she says?
no matter what she feels.
My surviving mum has a broken heart
that time won?t ever heal.
I'm so sorry for your friend. I lost my second DD - Tamsin - who was born sleeping exactly 6 months tomorrow. It's not really got any better - the pain. Most of my friends don't understand, they don't understand that I'm still in deep pain, still gripped by grief. Your friend may do the same, just remember, that even in months to come - or years even - she will still miss & mourn her baby, even if she seems not to xx