I just want to know what's going on

[iamci]

Should have been 7+1 when I went for scan last monday after spotting since friday. Bleeding got a little heavier Sunday and there was a little clotting on Monday. Since then the bleeding has gone back to spotting again (now 9 th day).

I was already fearing the worst but hopeful after reading other ladies' stories. However, they just told me there and then that there was nothing. Did an internal as well to check and nothing there either :'( Don't understand how i could have completely miscarried and not know, I thought I would have passed some tissue or something?

I was told the most likely thing was that I'd totally miscarried but they wanted to check my bloods. They were only 650 on monday (so way too low for a viable 7 wk pregnancy) and they were expecting them to drop further. They haven't. My hcg levels have been rising by about 200 every 48 hours. I now have to have another scan on monday to find out what is going on. They've told me to go to a&e if I feel unwell or have any pain.

I'm worried it's eptopic. I just want to know what's going on and for this to be over so that we can try again :(

Has anyone been through similar?

iamci, I'm sorry you're still playing the waiting game. Just an update from me, my HCG levels did go down from 8600 to 5600 so they said I was going to miscarry which I did on Sunday, 48 hours after my original light bleeding. I unfortunately ended up in A&E and needing 4 units of blood and a D&C in theatre. My original scan couldn't detect anything in my womb and they were monitoring me for an ectopic because of the high HCG levels, but invasive testing in A&E did detect quite alot of pregnancy 'products' in my womb, and the products were stuck which is why my MC went on heavily for 3 days. So I would say take their advice as you're doing and if things don't seem right call them again. You defo do not want to be in work when a MC starts. I'm very sorry you're going through this.

Goofymum, I'm so sorry too. It sounds like you've had an awful time. I'm feeling ok at the moment and just trying to keep myself occupied x

I just wanted to advise that if anything doesn't feel right then do not hesitate to go back in, whether you are worried that you're waiting too long, or whether you have stabbing pain or whether you do miscarry and the bleeding is too much to handle. I waited too long trying to manage at home and I shouldn't have. Am thinking of you. x

Hi everyone. I am in a similar situation I started bleeding on Sunday, which is now like a period. Had an internal scan in EPU yest which showed sac & yolk but no heartbeat. So have to go back in 2 weeks. They say they want to check for growth as the size indicates my dates might be wrong. But I am sure of my dates which estimate me at 10 weeks, so I don't hold any hope for the next scan. Although this pregnancy was a complete shock at my age (45), I am devastated as had got used to the idea, plus I know my 6 year old would love a bro or sis. So this 2 week wait is going to be horrendous, so I sympathasize with anyone going through this.

My thoughts are with you g1ngercat. The waiting is horrendous. Let us know how things go. I have found MN to be extremely reassuring during this horrible horrible time.

Thank you Goofymum, yes have read the entries and yes very reassuring. and will do x

Just under a month ago I woke with bleeding and went to EPU where I was told I had had a total mc.
I didn't see how I could have done as there just didn't seem to be enough blood.
My levels went up and down a bit but not down enough.
Nothing showed on a scan and eventually I went into theater and had an ectopic removed (never showed on a scan).
Had I not had surgery I would have had to have an injection that stops cells deviding. Not sure which would be preferable.
I hope you get some answers soon.

Thanks Ninjacat. Thankfully the scan showed it was in the uterus, so thankfully not an ectopic. But not a nice experience for you either way. I hope you are recovering well

G1ngercat, hope you're doing ok (well, as ok as can be expected). try and keep yourself busy, it's the waiting that's driving me crackers.

Ninjacat, how long after your first scan did they find the eptopic? They looked for ages on my last scan but still couldn't see anything. However, I know they still haven't rules it out cause I saw the notes on my last blood test. Still - eptopic? PUL?

Friends want me to out with them tonight. I feel fine and haven't had any cramping or bleeding for days but still don't know if it's a good idea. Also,i still don't feel like drinking (went off taste from first few weeks). I know I don't have to drink if I go but maybe a blow out with the girls is what I need? x

Did you go out last night iamci? How are you feeling now?

Went out for a few hours but drove (stashed an "emergency kit" in car just in case). It was good to be out and didn't mind not drinking. Was ready for bed quite early so left my friends too dance away.

Quick update:

Had another scan today and there was no visible change. Did mention that I had a very tipped uterus though which I didn't know.

They think my hcg levels will have dropped now (or hope they have). I need to ring back in the morning for my results x

did you have a vaginal ultrasound? A tilted uterus can make it much harder to see an early pregnancy. If you have only had an abdominal scan I would definitely insist on a vaginal one before accepting any treatments.

Yes, had three vaginal ones now. Still nothing to see (apart from something they said could be a small cyst).

Nobody has mentioned any sort of treatment yet. Think it all depends on my blood results x

iamci I think it was about two weeks after my first scan that I had the laperoscopy (sp?).
There didn't seem to be any hurry as I wasn't in pain.
When I started to have stitch like pains at work I phoned the ward directly and got myself admitted (as advised as AandE don't have your records).
If I had had no pain at all then EPU were going to give me an injection instead that halts cell growth.
Nothing ever showed up on a scan and what they removed was actually on the opposit side to the pain.
I'm a bit of a scaredy cat though so panicked at the first twinge.
Hope all is going well for you.
(sorry it's taken so long to reply - I have been working away)

Thanks ninjacat, looks like I'm ok. I got my blood results and they've gone back down to 750 hopefully nearing the end now.

That's good iamci.
My levels bounced around under 400 but just wouldn't go down.
After surgery they went to 11 then 4.
I think anything less than 100 and they discharge you.

iamci, I'm glad you were given some more information and that your levels are dropping. The limbo thing is so worrying not to mention time consuming.

The weird thing is, all I've kept hoping is that my levels will drop so that we can start trying again asap but I've been emotional all day since finding out! I think a tiny part of me (even though the rational side knew there was no chance - mega low hcg and absolutely nothing on scan is kinda conclusive!) hoped that it was a mistake and my little smudge was hiding in there somewhere. Which is ridiculous. I don't know if its because I haven't had heavy bleeding or passed any tissue. Need to let go.

I have stocked up on wine and choc on way home. Feel like I need it today x

Chocolate always helps! What is your favourite at the moment? I quite like the Montezuma's chilli and lime but your can't beat a bar of Dairy Milk for comfort!
It's not ridiculous to keep that hope, a bit optimism is probably what keeps us from going over the edge. I would be thinking the same about the smudge on the screen until I knew what it was. All through my mc, the bleeding was getting heavier and I knew in my heart of hearts that I was losing it but I think the brain concentrates on the forthcoming hurdle and doesn't allow you to see beyond that one until you've jumped it, a sort of self preservation. All the time I was thinking "Oh, it might be ok" which is crazy.
Keep us updated, enjoy a good rest and your wine and choc.

Mmmm that choc sounds ace! Just went for galaxy (and plenty of wine).

Hormone levels have gone down to 500 and something. Going to speak to doc tomorrow to see if they're going to give me any treatment or carry on leaving it x

Just been reading your post how are you recovering iamci???
Also ninjacat! How you doing?
To all the others ladies that posted I hope all is well with you!
It's sad no matter how that you have lost a small part of you that you was looking forwards to a baby!
I'm on day 15 after my no pain just wanted a scan after I had a MMC lat year to confirm all was well it wasn't a after surgery still couldn't understand what had happened ectopic in tube both removed now trying to heal & deal! Xx

Countmyblessings, so sorry to hear you've had to go through this again.

They've given me the option of conservative management (ie the wait and see approach I'm on at mo) or an injection. Told either way it's probably going to take a while before we can ttc again :-( xx

Just read post I only had 1 tube removed and also the fact that another much wanted baby is gone!!!!
Sorry posting from phone!!!!
It will take time but you will get there and then if you want to Try again. It takes a while to believe its possible! You'll get there!