Any positive stories fom people who have experienced multiple miscarriage/stillbirths?

[AngryFeet]

My dear friend is currently 18 weeks pregnant. She has lost 4 babies at 16 weeks, 16 weeks, 18 weeks and 24 weeks. She has an incompetant cervix, bicornuate uterus and blood clotting disorder and now all this has been discovered is embarking on her final attempt. The first few pregnancies ended due to the cervix opening and waters breaking but the last which was a stillbirth was due to blood clotting in the umbical cord. She had two operations to remove part of the septum from her uterus last year and has had a double stitch in her uterus (which she also had the last 2 pregancies) at 14 weeks. She is also taking progesterone and heparin. She is struggling with anxiety and I wish there was some way I could help her or know it was all going to be ok :(

Any stories similar with a good outcome? So worried about her and her husband but nothing I can do to help which is so frustrating.

[ExpatAl]

Gosh your poor friend. I'm full of admiration that she and her husband are still standing let alone trying again. I have read many positive stories and surely if her consultant knows her history and risks he/she can take steps to reduce the chance of her losing her baby again. And there was me feeling sorry for myself...

[princezako]

hi im very sorry to hear this my self itas 4 time i dont know what to do

[Methe]

Your poor, poor friend :( Some women really do get all the bad luck :(

[princezako]

my english not good can anyone helpe me plesase with

[Bellstar]

Hi op
I could have written your post tbh-I have incompetent cervix and also a blood clotting disorder which has meant I have lost babies. Like your friend have suffered from blood clots,premature rupture of membranes,pre term labour etc.

Yes your friend could have a positive outcome-I am now mum to 3 wonderful dcs

I dont understand your comment re the double stitch? do you mean a cervical stitch? I had numerous vaginal stitches but after they failed I had the transabdominal stitch which is permanent-and I have gone on to have 2 dcs since having it.

Your friend should ask about that and also make sure that she is seen by a consulant who is experienced in the management of incompetent cervix and the complications of it.

[AngryFeet]

Thanks bellstar. When I say double stitch they did the cervical stitch but apparently made it stronger than the first time she had it done. She is under the care of dr raj rai at St marys so has had the best possible care I think which is why this is her last attempt.

[PositiveAttitude]

It is a hard time for her. I had DD1, who died at 8 days due to her prematurity, then 4 miscarriages, then we went on to have 4 more healthy DCs (and then adopted one too). I lived each pregnancy a day at a time and with DD2 I never even thought anything further than actually giving birth to a healthy baby. So taking home a real live crying, weeing, pooing baby came as a bit of a shock!
I hope everything works out well for her.

[Moominsarescary]

Ive had to prem births at 35 and 32 weeks due to prom and a late loss at 20 weeks due to ic.

It seems your friend is getting the best care possible and hopefully things will be different this time.

[ButtonBoo]

Hi. Just came across this thread and wanted to tell you about my Mum. She had a mc at 12 weeks, then a year later a stillbirth at 33 weeks and then a few years after that my sister was born prematurely at 26 weeks, weighing 12oz. She died at 3 days old. My Mum had an incompetent cervix and when she fell of with me had a stitch put in and went into hospital for complete bed rest at 24 weeks - 16 weeks in hospital waiting for me to come. I'm here, an only child and my Mum and I could not be closer. She is an amazing woman and i know that every child is special, but what she went through to have me is incredible. I have just given her her first grandchild, my DD. (She's besotted!). It doesn't always happen for everyone but it can happen, even after the most awful times.