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Signs that your miscarriage was in the post (apart from spotting and cramping)?

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WhatDreamsMayCome · 20/04/2012 00:30

Thinking back to when I miscarried, apart from the bleeding and cramps there were a few other signs that something was on its way. If I we can match more signs, we can plan for it better. I wonder if anyone else remembers anything else, however odd/nutty.

These are mine:
About three of four days before, my belly felt incredibly tight and stretched. I put this down to the baby just growing but was this one of the signs?

Incredible tiredness and an inability to put any eyeliner, quite unlike me.
My mind was telling me 'leave your face clean', despite the fact that I suddenely looked very pale and would normally at least bung on a bit of cream blusher.

On the morning it happened, had diarrohea and pulse app on phone measured 99bpm.

If you want to get weird, around a fortnight before, a magpie sat on an inch from my window and stared directly at me. I don't believe it was anything spooky, just that they are very intelligent and they can perhaps sniff out death. We always leave a vent open above the window. Anyway, it did prove to be bad luck, perhaps I should have engaged it in conversation or whatever it is you're supposed to do! Nothing would be too odd, if it meant there would be a successful next time.

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chocolateandcoffee · 20/04/2012 01:08

it was about 5 years ago now and don't think i can remember many little details. I do remember having a bad odour down below for a few days before, really quite strong and odd smelling. Have never experienced it before or since. Also diarrhoea the evening before.

My miscarriage was very early, 9-10 weeks

WhatDreamsMayCome · 20/04/2012 01:47

Thanks for your reply chocolateandcoffee. You've reminded me that at some point, I think a month before it happened, at around 10 weeks, for a couple of days, I experienced a strong nettle, old grass odour and then it disappeared. I put it down to just being pregnant, but now I wonder if it was part of its demise. I hope you're doing okay now?

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chocolateandcoffee · 20/04/2012 06:17

doing really well now. Have 2 dc,s since then. I will never forget the emotional pain at the time. All I ever wanted was a child and got pregnant 2 months before my wedding, the roller coaster of joy and loss was unbelievable.
I took some comfort from stat about early miscarriage, I knew i was not alone. I also after the first weeks of the loss began to believe that there was something wrong with my baby which meant it would not have survived once born and it was mother nature's way of making things easier in the long run.
It did not make it any easier though.

I fell pregnant with ds 5 months later, I Constantly panicked that the same would happen again. Thankfully it did not. I take comfort in the fact that I would not have him if the first pregnancy went to term.

How are you dreams? your miscarriage seams to be much more recent than mine.

WhatDreamsMayCome · 20/04/2012 17:41

I'm glad to read that you went on to have two children, it must have been very distressing at the time for you to have the high of the wedding and then the low of such loss.
I'm doing okay, thanks for asking, chocolate. I had a miscarriage, early in January at nearly 14 weeks. Currently in that limbo period when I know I should be seeing medical people and investigations but I don't know if I'm cut out for pregnancy. I would really just like someone to have my egg implanted in someone else and for them to have it for me!!! I don't feel the need to feel pregnant (and all the worrying for nine months) just really want to have children before it's too late. I tell dh that he can try it next time round!

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Tessa617 · 20/04/2012 18:30

I can't say I had any additional symptoms but I did notice a LOSS in pregnancy symptoms. For instance I wrote a cheery FB post a couple of days before miscarrying saying "I don't feel sick at all this morning!". I can't think of anything else that seemed odd now looking back.

WhatDreamsMayCome · 20/04/2012 18:46

That's it isn't it, as time goes by, it is difficult to remember instincts and things that may have indicated that things were not well. I thought that the sore breasts were feeling a lot better but then there's supposed to be a time when sickness and sorebreasts subside as the placenta takes over from the ovaries so it is difficult to tell. My mother spoke about the child being here next Christmas and I remember thinking that it seemed surreal and didn't seem very likely despite having an obviously rounded belly! Without having been pregnant to term, it's hard to know what's usual to feel and what's not.

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Tessa617 · 20/04/2012 19:44

Well I will add that I never had a "good" feeling about this pregnancy. Had to sneak around Tesco the last evening of our trip home (hiding from parents) to buy a test. Got my BFP but it was very faint - I put that down to not being my usual brand of test. MS kicked in later than normal. Insurance company gave me the run around getting prenatal vitamins so I didn't take any for a week while they sorted out that mess (yes, I know I could have just got some OTC). Also didn't tell any family members - hate doing it over the phone so figured we would wait til they visited. So there were a few things that just didn't feel "right" to me.

LadyMaryCrawley · 24/04/2012 18:37

Yes, looking back I had a couple of very definite signs:

  • a horrendous migraine, followed by waking up later that night completely drenched in sweat (and I mean completely drenched, had to change my jammies and everything). I just put it down to being pg. I now wonder if the temp spike was when it all went wrong.
  • the day after that, I didn't feel sick, but that was the day I decided to try those wrist strap acupuncturey thingies, so I thought it was that.

then the next day I started bleeding
then two days after that it all kicked off.

So sorry to read of everyone's losses. I'm not around much but you are all so kind on here.
Dillydollydaydream · 24/04/2012 19:05

I had a faint bfp even after AF was due, I took two clearblue digitals and they didn't move past 1-2wks. I thought at the time maybe I'd just implanted late but things were probably not progressing from the off.

leftmysociallifeatthedoor · 24/04/2012 19:09

I haven't had a miscarriage and I'm really sorry for all your losses. I just wanted to say that loss of symptoms, spotting and faint positives aren't always bad signs. I had them all with dd. I hope this comes across in the right way, it was just maybe to ease the worrying for anyone pregnant and reading this or for yourselves in the future.

Good luck with whatever path you take.

Littlemissimpatient · 24/04/2012 19:35

Hi everyone I have had 2 mc, one a missed mc so both of mine v different.
1st I had some pains that felt like bad AF pains went to gp who sent me to epac suspected ectopic. Went for scan and appeared all ok with fu scan booked 2 weeks later and no further growth than 6 weeks. I can't say I had any pg symptoms at all with this one.
2nd again sent to epac but with bleeding and left sided pains again suspected ectopic. No ectopic sac on scan but up until that day I still had what I thought were pg symptoms of extreme tiredness and constant headache. This could have been however that I completely dropped caffeine when I found out and was on decaf not sure!
So sorry not much help, but I do think you may be onto something.
All I can advise anyone is that if something doesn't feel right go to your gp and ask to be seen at the epac if the hosp has one.
I phoned at 1pm to speak to gp, receptionist put me straight in when I said I was of and had pains and bleeding and I had an appt at 4pm. This is not like my gp but she must have realised when I said I had had a previous mc I was not going to take no for an answer! sorry I'm rambling on

SootySweepandSue · 24/04/2012 19:39

I suddenly just felt like I wasn't pregnant as if a switch had been turned off.

I also got very sweaty.

FoofFighter · 25/04/2012 14:14

I really don't think this is an entirely helpful thread y'know and I do get where you are coming from but really none of us know until it happens or until we are told by a scan that it's happened.

So many symptoms and lack of are so different for each different pregnancy never mind each different woman that to say that xyz was a sign of mc is probably not helpful. Even things like bleeding happen regularly in completely normal ongoing pregnancies.

Sorry, I don't mean to offend just concerned about pregnant women reading this and causing themselves needless stress and worry.

tightwad · 25/04/2012 15:07

For me (7 mcs) i just knew from the get go.

Very very faint + 5 days late for af.

suddenly all symptoms stopped.

Innability to look for the due date, i just had a mental block with this, like i couldnt look ahead at all.

When pregnant with my ds, i felt calm, and immediately had very strong symptoms that didnt go away, he was fine, but i knew he would be.

I just knew in my soul with each of them.

blackcatsdancing · 25/04/2012 15:42

each pregnancy is different, each woman is different. You cannot really look back and say 'oh that was a sign'. I had no signs, not for either of my losses. Looking for clues is not helpful. Even with something like bleeding, it just isn't. My sonographer said you can never tell by the type or volume of blood what the outcome will be. So when i reported back on MN that on examination i had a closed cervix and brown blood, the immediate response was "that's a great sign , good luck with the scan in 2 days". It was not a good sign the baby was already dead and had been for some time.

blackcatsdancing · 25/04/2012 16:41

also as posters above have said loss of symptoms isn't necessarily a bad sign. Neither does bleeding necessarily mean you will MC, I know a woman who bled all the way through her pregnancy and delivered a full term healthy baby. Anyone reading this who is pregnant please don't get upset if you have any of the above 'signs'. Only a scan can tell for certain what is going on.

Dillydollydaydream · 25/04/2012 19:46

I had heavy bleeding with clots in my first pregnancy throughout the first trimester. That pregnancy was successful and I gave birth at 39+ weeks.
This time I had the same amount of bleeding but then went on to miscarry. My husband thought I'd be ok this time as I'd had a successful pregnancy after bleeding previously whereas I knew this time as soon as I started spotting I was miscarrying.

blackcatsdancing · 25/04/2012 20:42

dilly very sorry for your loss . Did you honestly not feel scared and like you might miscarry with your fist pregnancy though? With both mine as soon as i saw the tiniest bit of spotting my blood went cold and i felt shaky and scared. I'm just not sure about recollections and emotions recalled years or even weeks after the event. There is interesting scientific evidence about how memory plays tricks on us and how unreliable it is. Also for every person who felt (as you did) that this is it, i'm definitely miscarrying, I have read many, many women on MN who felt the same and DID NOT mc.

Dillydollydaydream · 26/04/2012 17:27

I didn't know I was pregnant when I first started bleeding with my first. I used a tampon as it was heavy then it stopped 2 days later. I went to the doctor with one sided pain and he sent me for a scan which showed I was pregnant but had a large ovarian cyst. There was no heartbeat at the time so had to go back 2 weeks later. At that point I was worried I was going to miscarry. I had frequent bleeding after that but lighter and all was fine luckily.

Midgetm · 28/04/2012 18:39

I've lost count of the miscarriages I've had but it is in excess of 7 plus an EP. The first one, 12 weeks, I just knew. Went to buy sanitary towels and started bleeding on the way back from the shops. The others, very different, and like others said to look for similarities is maybe not helpful. I bled with my DD and have cramps. I know from my Countless trawls in the Internet that we all just want Reassurance. Are we having a MC or are we not? My experience is that there are no answers to that and no amount of googling will answer your questions to the level we all want and need.

Goofymum · 28/04/2012 23:30

With my first MC I had no sickness and no other signs of pregnancy that I'd had previously eg sore boobs so I was worried that I would miscarry and I did at 10 1/2 weeks. I am currently going through another miscarriage, again at 10 1/2 weeks and this time round I thought the pregnancy was really strong as I had good signs of a pregnancy until I started bleeding. So I guess you never can tell.

naplavni · 31/07/2020 07:17

I know this is a zombie thread but I wanted to add here if someone is searching similar questions like this.
I have just experienced a chemical pregnancy (early miscarriage) and from the get-go of feeling pregnant this month something didn't feel right. With my first I was calm and contented which looking back seemed naive but I didn't feel that the pregnancy was threatened at all.
This time in my gut based on my symptoms and how rough I felt I just knew something wasn't right.
There was so much cramping and just feeling in general very poorly.
The day before I started to cramp heavy and bleed I had a high heart rate of 84 which is 20bpm higher than normal for me and I was sweating and feeling dizzy.

I knew something wasn't right and checked my toilet paper and instantly knew it was blood. I experienced clots and bright red blood then coffee grounds then watery. I was checked over by a and e for suspected eptopic pregnancy due to the pain but they said it was CP.

I know it's scary and it's put me off wanting to try again. But I can assure you - your gut instinct or mother's instinct is always right. I KNEW something wasn't right. This was a week before I actually miscarried!

Jenpop234 · 03/08/2020 15:56

Absolutely nothing. With my first pregnancy I had bleeding for 5 weeks on and off. Two emergency epu scans showed a healthy baby and now he's 2 years old.
This time I had no bleeding and felt exactly the same sickness wise as with my first.
Wasn't until the 12 week scan that I found out baby had died at 9 weeks.

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