Frustrated at how slow this feels...

[Katuk82]

Went for a private scan on Sunday at 10+5 to find no heart beat, they recon it had gone at 9 weeks (from measurements).

Private clinic very promptly arrange for an appt at EPU with NHS for today, and what a waste of time that was. Saw a nurse who dispite having the details from the clinc emailed to her started with, "i don't really know why you're here". Then waited another 2hours to see a doctor who basicially said these are your three options but we can't do anything until we scan you... Fair enough, when can you scan again... we don't know - later in the week...

Do they not think this would be useful info to have?! they reluctantly went to find scan dates. I then said i woud prefer the surgery option, i asked when they would be likely to know availability for this, again, they don't know. I asked when they would be able to know by and apparently they might be able to find time to speak to the surgery team by the end of Friday to see when next slots are - god knows how long the wait will be then before they can actually do anything.

I know these aren't long time frames in the real world, but right now 5 days to get a date is a long time in my world. Feel like i'm been pushed down the tablet route, but would have to stay in after taking them and i really don't want to go though this on my own in hospital. (i know surgery is on my own in hospital but i'll be out cold for that!)

They are going to rescan tomorrow now - still have to wait for friday to see when they can see me again after that.

Sorry to rant. DP is also very pissed off and in a right strop, but is very noisly doing housework so at least its productive stress :)

This sounds truly awful. Do they have no compassion. It's always wait and see which when you feel awful about your loss anyway doesn't help does it? I was also pushed from pillar to post and was given false hope by doctors I saw when deep down I knew it was over. I think the NHS needs retraining on dealing with these situations. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you get answers soon. Take care and prepare for spontaneous miscarriage just in case. xx

Katuk82, very sorry to hear what you're going through. I agree with you, but with the addition that this is the real world, and 5 days is a long time in a real world when this is pressing. You're not ranting at all.

that is shit for you. Although very nice at my EPU I also have been told very little except come back for more scans I don't need. Agree with lynzw75 that they need retraining. I am going to write to someone (who I know not) and say they need a proper leaflet given out with bounty packs about what an mc is, how it might start, what you might need to deal with it and what your partner will need to do, and when you might know it is going wrong. There is nothing said, just walls put up.

i think you did really well questioning them and making them do stuff for you. I just met repetitive, patronising statements that meant well but were utterly useless.

Good luck at your next appts and so sorry you have to go through this; it's bad enough just to be in this situation - can't they see this?! Can you imagine if funeral directors treated us like this?!