20mm rule :(

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Tosspots and shitbags but I have carried this blighted ovum knowing it is fucked for 10 days now, had my scan yesterday, everyone said my pregnancy had failed... then dr says actually, your gestational sac is only 19mm, it has to be 20mm before we can help you :( Go home for another 10 days when we'll rescan you.

Ring this morning to complain and say help me please, and they say computer says no. wait to mc naturally or come back for your scan in 10 days and we'll help you. 20mm rule.

I feel so sad and helpless and angry I have to stay 'pregnant' with zilcho, just a slowly growing fecking placenta. I appreciate the guidlelines but really, no buggering baby is going to pop up suddenly at 10 weeks.

Symptoms are going so i really hope to miscarry soon... but who knows when and in the meantime I can't go to london to see my best mates and cheer up. I can't see my SIL new baby down South. I can't play properly with my toddler. I can't move on.

Such a whine, am sorry. So very down about it today and home alone with (darling, but busy) DS and no friends aroundabout to cheer me up. Want to hide in bed!

take care peeps, I know if you are here you are sad too.

I remember being desperate for that chapter to close so I could begin again.

So sorry.

So sorry, I didn't even know of this pathetic rule how cruel just 1mm away from having it all done BASTARDS.
wishing u the best xx

oh fun this must be horrendous for you. 1mm away is cruel and when you know your dates it is just causing you so much more anguish. I dont know what else to say :(

thanks peeps, am ok just so frustrated! It's because it is a blighted ovum, so nothing is in the sac whatsoever so the measuremenmt of the sac is of all importance - above 20mm nothing will grow in it, under there is a chance 'my dates are wrong'. Are they heck. If there was a foetus that had died (ie a mmc) they would help me :(

just really hope to mc naturally before I have the scan in 10 days so this can be over! Am fed up of being a death-carrying spectre person.

Am ok though. might even have a cider later...

thank you for listening to my whine, it means a lot!

Omg I know this thread is a bit old but its my exact situation been waiting nearly 2wks. My empty sac is 20mm but there rule is 25mm. I'm starting to get angry thought I might have mc naturally by now but no. And the hosp leaving it soo long to do anything because of there guidelines! I'm just over 9wks as u say a foetus isnt just going to appear now.
Id love to know the rest of your story if u still check this thread. Sorry this happened to u too

I've got my scan 2mora be my 3rd one hopefully they will give me my options and will probably do the same as u. This is my 2nd miscarriage this yr. 3rd time lucky I guess

This is a horrendous situation BUT you can trawl through the miscarriage threads and will come across loads of people who have had scans showing an empty sac, then gone back in 10 days to see a wee baby there, when all hope has been lost.

Personally, i would be utterly mortified to have gone ahead with medical management to find that there was a little something there.

I think it is to be 100000% sure.

Oh yeh I know I had been thinking after my first scan I would wait. But I will have had 3 scans over 2wks. So I think if there's still an empty sac tomorrow there is no chance. l will be 9 and a half weeks

You kinda know yourself as well though dont you, with symptoms diminishing. You just want it over with.

Ive had 5 blighted ovums. Waited till 13 weeks for one of them to end, horrific

But at the same time, i get why they need rules about when to draw the line.

5, were they able to tell u why, that's awful.
My symptoms never really kicked in at all. Need it all to be over now so I can start to deal with it and feel better, if u see what I mean

Possibly Chromosomal was all they said to me.

I always had verys trong pregnancy symptoms with all of mine. Then they suddenly stopped. Always had small amount of bleeding on and off too.

Yes, agree, need it all done so you can get on with things.
Sympathy & hugs to you xxxx