Im unreasonably fucked off and angry to now be feeling sick.

[mrsnesbit]

For what?
For what?
For fuck all thats what.
All this nausea and sore boobs, and feeling shit for fuck all, nothing, nada.
What have i done to deserve this? I just dont understand.

I will know soon enough, just want it over & done with. Going to just get the pills and get it done.
Why is it so fucking easy for the rest of the world to just "fall" pregnant and then to stay pregnant?
We are good & nice people, we are in such a great time in our lives to do this, it would be so so hard, but we could do it.

RAAAAANT

Did you have any bloods taken? Sometimes that is the only way of seeing if an early pregnancy is viable. If repeat blood tests show an
Increase in hcg you might be okay this time!!

Oh - and I remember having unexpected rage at losing yet another baby when I started spotting at 6 weeks. She is nearly 7 years
Old now. A miracle amongst 12 mcs.

Keeping it all crossed for you mrsnesbit, 10 days is a bloody long time to leave you waiting, surely a week would be enough to tell? or is it more a case of it being fully booked? Can you push for bloods?

Na, bloods in ME are not worth the paper they are written on. Having had increased HCG when going every 2 days for bloods...and still miscarrying, just another source of uncertainty and stress i think.

They didnt offer and i would have refused anyway, bloods dont show anything concrete.

10 days because there is little point going sooner. I want to go once, thats it, not be sent away on multiple occasions.
It gives mother nature time to intervene too.
Gutted...again.

Aagh, I'm so sorry you didn't get more definite news.
I've not had such an early scan (well, such a positive early scan). If you've never seen fetal pole before then perhaps this is good this time?

I'm worried about raising hopes with my tale... but am pregnant again after my 4 MCs and I had bleeding like a bastard for first 2 months. Would come and go, different each week. Yet would still be nauseous, achy boobs, you know the drill. And so ended up in EPAU each week convinced I'd lost it yet again - and each scan has showed all is well. Cannot believe we've made it as far as 17 wks. It's been a crappy rollercoaster so far but signs are positive.

So i suppose my point is that you just never know! Does this help to keep your chin up? Or am I muddying the waters further? HTH and don't want to depress further, sorry

nonono topsmart, it does cheer me, there is hope after multiple mc, i know there is. so thanks love, i am always cheered by good outcomes for people x

Bless you mrsnesbit, you shouldn't have to be reassuring me in this situation

I like hearing other people's good news. And then again I don't like other people's good news!
The ridiculous thing is we have a 5yr old DD and tests have showed nothing wrong with me or DH.
Life sucks eh? Am crossing all my digits for you.

me too, all tests normal. we have an 8 year old..took 2 mcs to get him though.

Bleeding for 3 weeks for me, very very small amount, brown discharge, no fresh blood. Some times nowt there.

Tis confusing, annoying, distressing, but need to be patient as i cant change or influence anything. What will be will be.
sigh.

blighted ovums are empty gestational sacs i believe. I had an empty sac at what should have been 6 + 6, so mine is almost definitely a BO (back tomorrow after same ten-day wait to confirm). with a yolk sac and foetal pole that sounds positive? was there a HB yet and what did they say about it if not?

Hope you ok chuck

x

hi fun, you are right BO is an empty gestational sac..that is empty of a fetus.
Yolk sac & fetal pole does by no means mean that a fetus will develop. Ive been her before.

There are 3 options,

1. leave for nature to allow mc (i knew at 7 weeks, didnt mc till i was 13 weeks when i chose this path...this was utter utter torture)

2. medical management, this is medication to force the mc, i have done this 3 times now, its quick & controlled.

3. surgical management, they will surgically remove the pregnancy while you are under a GA.

Good luck fun x same back at you..chin up chuck x

no hb because there was no baby.

MrsN - I had similar with DD2 - 4 weeks of brown spotting, am I , aren't I, yes scan or wait scan, then finally body just DO FUCKING SOMETHING! I went for a scan at 6w and they thought they could see a fetal pole but unconvinced second scan 10 days later showed a to date pregnancy with a heartbeat and all. I have a 1 in 4 success rate with pregnancy so I was never expecting her to ever be but she proved me wrong!

blue I adore your story, treasure that little tease!

mrs I am no doubt being an ignoramus, but a foetal pole is a beginning baby yes? What did the scan peeps say? Am not going to teach you to suck eggs, and no, it doesn't mean one will develop but surely it doesn't mean one just won't? I totally understand being down for self preservation reasons but... isn't there a wee bit of hope?

Am doing medical management, this weekend if poss.

hugs mrs, sorry if my upbeat wittering is annoying cause I missed something. please don't feel you have to spell anything out (that would be very annoying I am sure), just ignore me! x

whispers to fun "secretly i want to jump around the room and scream that a fetal pole is the start of my bean" but i know from bitter experience that this has strong indications that it will develop no further.

It has been pointed out to me on another thread that the fact that i am actually 8+4 from LMP, this is very very bad.
This is something i had not considered, i had taken the date of 6+4 from conception, and as this matched exactly the date given by the sonographer, i had a wee bit of hope.
There should be a baby there at 8+4, no doubts whatsoever.

Thanks for hugs, thansk so much for putting up with me, i dont know what i would do without you all xxxx

no putting up with anyone on this board, we are all strange tinternet friends.

we have the same dates pretty much - I am meant to be 8+1. I have to say that if I did have a baby (I don't, am being hypothetical) at the least I would expect it be an embryo with a hb and about 1cm long (as I saw DS at 7 weeks sommat).

Are you sure, sure, sure you can't be 6 weeks? I know you are sure. I wish you were 6 weeks :(

I guess you have the limbo shit I am just coming out of then. So sorry about that crap too. Could you ring GP/EPU and say you got your dates wrong and get things moving - if you are totally sure your dates put you at 8 weeks? Would they still make you wait?

Have you had investigations into your recurrent mcs? Am sure you have. Am sorry this keeps happening to you, you must be so tough to do this again and again.

PS. I was gloomy - must put my comments into context of my own totally sound about dreaded experience facing the Empty Sac that should be my baby tomorrow. naturally quite doom and gloom and have the 1cm thing fixated in my mind. YOUR little bubs could just be taking their time, couldn't they? You never know!
x

Not sure at all, i could be 6 weeks. I stopped writing dates down because we stopped ttc. I am not sure about dates at all. In fact i know i had a period in Feb some time, around about 10-16th sometime i think??????

So limbo continues....

ds was minute! 5lbs at birth so i suppose i do have teeny wee babies, so this one could be like ds, just wee.

oh, x post.

hurrah for that I am very excited! Bloody fucking limbo tits. I hope it goes super-speedy for you. Do NOT google and do NOT think about it. (hehe as if) :)

not gonna google, ive done that before and tis not helpful at all.

bloody fucking limbotits indeed!

teeny babies!

i wonder that too... DS was 6lbs when born and his EDD was a week behind my dates (I knew what was what then too) so I just thought he must measure small and always knew NHS had it wrong. I wonder to myself if we would have seen him at 6 weeks, if at 8/9 weeks he measured 7... hmmm. bloody early scans, and limbo and hope. hope kills me

But hurray for you, it does look good whisper... 'ok' :)

I know nothing anyone says can make this waiting any easier for you, I just wanted to say that I really hope that you get positive news at your next scan. It took us 4 years to conceive and I'm so grateful that the pregnancy was problem free, I cannot even begin to imagine going through 1 MC let alone 7. You must be a very strong person, I wish you all the best and I really hope to read a positive update to this thread in 10 days.

Thanks fhdl34. Took us 3 years and 2 mcs to get our gorgeous ds.
Last mc took us 2 years to concieve so not alwasy easy.

I thought i was menopausal, and to have only had a mc 6 months previous before concieving this time is just so not how it happens for us! Shocked to say the least. We had stopped ttc completely.

Sorry you're still in limbo mrsN, but if I can give you a wee glimmer of hope.

I had a scan with my accidental pregnancy at what I was dating at 8+ weeks based on the date we did the deed and knowing I emulated three days later. We hadn't had sex for two months before that point, nor again before I had the scan, which dated me at 6+3 with yolk sac and foetal pole. I was gutted as I new my dates couldn't have been wrong, and also because I'd seen a heartbeat with DD at the same gestational age of 6+3 and I was convinced it was only a matter of time before I mc'd again (I'd had at least 2 before having DD)

My probable miscarriage is now 3 years old, and just as troublesome now as he was then!

Emulated = ovulated...obviously!