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jenrclarke · 01/04/2012 20:50

Hi 4 years ago i had a placental abrubtion and soon after went into premature labour at 23+5 days they told me they would not try and save my baby boy who was born breathing for about 10 mins then he soon passed we called him Harry it was a terrible thing to happen and i still think about my gorgeous boy everyday.
In january this year i found out i was pregnant again i was terrified that something would go wrong but my pregnancy was so different i felt good only slight nausea and working didnt feel like a chore, i had my 12 week scan and all was good i started progesterone pessaries to inhibit pre-term labour, i had a cervical scan on 29/3/12 and my consultant was happy with the development, i got excited and booked a private scan to determine the sex 3 days later when i arrived at the clinic the sonagrapher told me he could not hear a heartbeat i am 16weeks pregant, so i went to the hospital who confirmed that there was no heartbeat.
The only option i had was to be given a tablet to open my cervix then go back to the hospital tomorrow to be induced, i am so scared.....before it all happened so quick now i have had to have my sleeping baby inside me knowing that he is not breathing.
I am devestated, i dont know what is wrong with my body that it lets this keep happening to me.
Has anyone ever been through anything similar that has any advice on how i am supposed to deal with this without going mad????

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CharlieMumma · 01/04/2012 20:52

I'm so sorry for ur awful news and what happened before. Just know its not your fault it's a terrible tragedy for u and ur family

Mama1980 · 01/04/2012 21:02

Oh I am so very very sorry for your losses Sad sometimes life can be unbelievably cruel. I lost my first son at 16 weeks I went into premature labour due to as I later discovered a scarred and weak cervix. I had my second son at 26 weeks following a cervical stitch and placental abruption, he is now 4. Heavens I have no advice really i just didn't want you to feel alone, I will be thinking of you. Feel free to send me a message if you would like to talk or want any more information as to what to expect at 16 weeks. Again I'm so very sorry.

browneyesblue · 01/04/2012 21:30

I am so sorry. I haven't had the same experience as you, but I couldn't read this without sending my sympathy. I hope you have someone with you in real life to support you. x

jenrclarke · 01/04/2012 21:49

Thank you all for your kind messages for some reason its easier to post on here than to talk to people I know, I have a very supportive fiancé who I couldn't get through this without, for that I am very lucky x

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jenrclarke · 03/04/2012 17:59

I had my baby, it was a little boy we called him Archie, he was so tiny the labour was not as bad as i thought it would be, although emotionally i feel numb i didnt cry, i feel like i cant grieve and i dont know why, has anything like this happened to anyone before?
No one really understands what im going through....well i dont even understand it at the minute!!! people keep telling me the same thing.....i just wanna scream

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browneyesblue · 03/04/2012 18:43

Oh love. I wish I had the right words for you. I've been thinking a lot about you over the past couple of days.

I'm so sorry that you and your fiance have lost your beautiful little Archie. I hope that you can find the strength and love in yourselves to help each other through this awful time.

I can't imagine what you must be feeling, but I know that you have to be as kind and gentle as you can be to yourself. It will take time to process all that has happened, and I'm sure wanting to scream is a very normal reaction to such a tragic situation, so go ahead and scream if you need to.

Sending you both love. xxx

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