I just need to get it out!!!

[lola4lee]

Well here is my story and I know it isn't as bad as some on here but I just need to get it all off my chest!
Me and DH started ttc in May last year and we were very happy when it only took 1 month, then at 12 and a half weeks only a few days from our first scan I started bleeding, went to hospital and found out it had died at 8wks, had to wait a week to then have a dnc after a 2nd scan. We were devastated as to be expected.
It took us a while to get back to ttc properly and xmas eve i had a positive test, great....then new years day I had a very heavy bleed (didn't see the point in going to doctors etc as obviously mc) I was 6 weeks.
Then we got another positive test 3 weeks ago, i went to doctors straight away to try and get early scans etc, then just a week and a half later the bleeding started again, went to a+e had blood test and scan and yep mc again, again I was 6 weeks.
So I finally get a referral..yipee....that was today and I felt so anxious and was kept waiting for over an hour, to be told the consultant doesn't want to do any tests as I seem very healthy and my last 2 pregnancies barely count, I just have to keep trying as obviously I don't have a fertility problem but maybe just have a couple of months break!
Even though he may be right and I may just get there in the end I would have felt better if it would have seemed like he was trying........I know I am probably over reacting but I just needed to rant to someone as only my Dad and my work colleagues know about the last 2 mc, so apart from partner I don't have anyone to talk to properly.Even though my partner has been great.
I know I'm lucky because I'm only 28, but I've been wanting this since I was 16 and now I have to wait even more and possible have even more mc's and just hope one sticks.
Sorry so long and thankyou for reading xx
I wish everyone out there the best of luck with ttc or your pregnancies xx

Hi Lola4lee

I am so sorry to hear your experience, it sounds like you have had a terrible time. I have just had my second early miscarriage and whilst I'm a lot older than you (41) I've asked my doc to refer me and she's agreed based on age mainly and a possible link to thyroid. What I would say in your situation is that you have had THREE and regardless of your age and health, protocol is that you should be entitled to those tests - a friend of mine had simple blood tests after three miscarriages and she only needed a half an aspron to make a baby stick!!

I would strongly recommend a second opinion - go back to your GP and explain the situ and ask if they can recommend the best NHS recurrent miscarriage clinic for you, you are entitled and why should you have to play lotto till you get lucky, you don't want to lose one more baby, it's not good for your emotional health as much as anything.

And that's my rant over too! :-) Hope that makes sense and feel free to PM me if you need an ear, I know how lonely it can feel at times, with all the family live and support in the world.

In the meantime, take care and I hope you do get your baby soon.

Estelle xx

Oh Lola I really feel for you. That's just rubbish. I can imagine how you were probably counting down to the appointment & hoping that he'd be able to answer loads of questions for you & give you hope. In one way, as you say, it's good he thinks you'll have no problems. But I totally agree he should do some tests to rule things out if nothing else. Also there's a theory that closely monitored pregnancies have a greater chance of success so even if he didn't do much just seeing you & maybe carrying out some tests, making sure you get scans etc might all help. The nhs makes me so mad sometimes! It's all very well for the doctor to be unconcerned & optimistic but he's not the one going through the physical & emotional nightmare that are miscarriages!!! Sorry for rant....

Definitely get a 2nd opinion if you can. Or could you afford to see someone privately? Even if it's just 1 appointment for an opinion? Hope you get some answers soon. Maybe in the meantime try alternative therapies like accupuncture/reflexology?

Thank you both of you.
I think I will ask my GP to send me elsewhere, even though the MW said only 5% of people in my position do find anything I would still like to know that I'm not in that 5%!!
I know my GP's will get me set up for early appt/scans etc as they had started with last pregnancy which does make me feel better about that at least.
Me and DH are going to have a month off from ttc, so hopefully I will get to see someone before we try again.
Thank you for msgs, it's nice to know Im not over reacting or being over sensitive xx