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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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So, i suspect this might be a miscarrige but the dr at the hosptial was rubbish :(

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Chrononaut · 23/03/2012 13:11

Well, im 10 weeks, last night i had tiny tinges of blood (and i mean tiny) bit of cramping. We went to the out of hours service and the doctor there said "well, your probably having a miscarrige, or maybe everthings fine" she didn't tell us what to do or anything she just sent us straight home. overnight ive had brown discharge. midwife told us to see the gp today so we're going at 3 :(

I feel like im being left to bleed and deal with it on my own. I dont understand whats happening to me at all.

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Notinmykitchen · 23/03/2012 13:18

That is awful, how insensitive! I hope you get more help from the GP! There is every chance everything is fine, I certainly had some brown discharge when pregnant and all was well, and I have read on here of loads of other people with the same, so don't give up hope yet, good luck!

b00kw0rm · 23/03/2012 13:19

Hi chrononaut so sorry to hear that you're in this position- I'm not really sure what the midwife is expecting the GP to be able to tell you as you really need a scan to check out what is happening...

You could try finding your nearest Early Pregnancy Unit and contact them directly as this is probably what the GP will advise anyway?

Good luck.

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Chrononaut · 23/03/2012 17:15

update: Went and saw my lovely gp who gave me a better idea of what was happening to me. Am waiting a call from the EPU and have been told if my bleeding gets heavier then to go to a&e. there has been a slight increase in the brown discharge which is now blood tinged :( not sure wether this means i should head to a&e yet though as ive had no pain yet :(

after seeing my gp im even more irritated that the doctor i saw last night was so crap.

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stelabelle · 23/03/2012 19:51

Hi crononaut

That is outrageous behavior from a medic, although I'm not surprised, some of them are amazing and some are shocking! The worst I ever heard was a GP who said to a woman who had just miscarried and called in for an appt 'you're not going to cry over a little thing like this are you?' True story. I would try and put it behind you and concentrate on you and being good to yourself until you get your scan. I really do hope it goes well for you. I am sure everyone will have everything crossed. Xx

lola4lee · 23/03/2012 19:56

Oh you poor thing that is terrible.
I wanted to wish you all the best for your scan
xx

jaffacake2 · 23/03/2012 20:00

Hope all goes well for you. I had spotting and some brown blood loss with both my girls in the first 3 months and all was well.Not sure why there was loss,just told it was "hormonal" ?
Best wishes for your scan x

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Chrononaut · 24/03/2012 10:52

so another update. At about 6pm last night the bleeding got heavier so we dropped dc1 off at a friends and went to a&e, was referred to the EPU and after a long wait (there was one on call doctor for the entire maternity wing poor buggers) I was examined and had some tests. doctor said that the neck of my womb is still closed and the HCG hormone was still high. She said although this isnt necessarily good news its not bad either and that ill be booked for a scan till monday. should i pass any large clots i need to come back in straight to the unit. I have to say everyone at the hospitial was incredibly lovely considering they had been working long shifts. got back home at 1ish.

so its now a case of waiting till monday to see what happens. I feel like im more informed now but also like im still in limbo. One moment i feel fine and happy like im carrying on as normal but the next i feel full of grief. Poor Dh has been up and down as well but hes been a rock as ever. I havent told anyone irl whats happening to me yet with the exception of a close friend. I feel at this stage i would rather wait till i know the results instead of having everyone worry. want to say thankyou for all the support :) here's hoping all the finger crossing will result in a baby after all. xx

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lola4lee · 24/03/2012 11:50

I'm glad u at least had a more sensitive experience this time.
Good luck for Monday xx

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Chrononaut · 26/03/2012 11:18

so the hospital were kind enough to not ring at all over the weekend so we ended up having to call them today, first the EPU said we werent to call them and to ring another ward(yet two doctors said if we hadn't received a call thats who we were to call ) and then upon ringing the other ward, they said there was no way id be getting a scan today and that we'd have to wait tomorrow at the very best!

Wtf do i have to do to get a scan? drop my pants and bleed on the hospitial floor? Ive been bleeding since fucking thursday and bugger all has been done about it :(

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philbee · 26/03/2012 20:58

I'm sorry - this is rubbish of them. I had the same when I started bleeding - went in Friday morning and told that I couldn't be scanned until Monday, but couldn't make an appointment then as the receptionist hadn't come in yet (this was 10.30) and no one else knew how to use the computer! It wasn't my booking in hospital, and luckily they were more useful so I managed to get scanned that day. Is there anyone else you can call? Can your mw put some pressure on? Have you got the time for tomorrow? It's a horrible time, and you need to know what's happening, it's awful waiting to find out whether things are ok or not. I hope you get some proper attention soon.

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Chrononaut · 01/04/2012 10:44

so monday night was rushed to hospital. I cant really say what happened because it feels too painful to type it just yet. Baby is gone now and is sat in a jam jar in the form of ashes.

im in a bit of a hole at the moment. I seem happy and normal to DH but i cant bare the thought of seeing other people just now and it still feels so raw when i remember what happened. does it ever get easier? :(

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lizziebennet · 01/04/2012 14:21

So sorry Choro.

I promise it will get easier, but for now, just do exactly what you feel like. Don't see anyone if you don't feel like it. You need the chance to grieve.

I am so sorry as well that the hospital made it all so much harder.

wrigle · 01/04/2012 14:30

Chrononaut, I'm so sorry. How awful. Take your time and do what you need to do.

If it helps, I'm nearly exactly two weeks on from my 10.5 week MC on mother's day and I do feel better but everyone needs to go at their own speed. I was also unable to speak to / see people. I was fortunate with the weather (hope that doesn't sound crass) and I got out for a walk every day and after a week began seeing /speaking to poeple if only for very short moments daily. As for talking about the awful specifics, I did feel I needed to talk about the awful thing that happened to me, I had a friend come over a week after and cried may way through it, after a few tellings it quit haunting me. Don't rush yourself, big hugs.

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