Hope after D&C?

[allchik]

Hello all, this is my first time posting on here. I first came on and had a read through some of the threads when I found out i was pregnant, sadly now I am coming on here hoping for support and shared experiences.
Last Monday I started to bleed, after a few days in and out of hospital cramping, having contractions and bleeding I ended up back in having a D&C on Thursday eve.
The scan showed that my baby had died at about 7 weeks, but as a cruel twist of fate my bump continued to grow and all of my pregnancy symptoms remained....infact the Monday I bled was the first day that I wore maternity clothes to work (thought I was 13 weeks)
I feel heartbroken. My husband is fantastic and we are talking lots and crying when we need to, but I just want to be pregnant again....its all I can think about to be honest. I feel like I had the next year all planned out around being a mummy and am finding it really hard to imagine a year ahead with no bump and no baby :(
We were VERY lucky to get pregnant in the first couple of months of trying last time, but Im really scared that this wont happen again.....or that I will get pregnant again quickly but the baby will die again and I wont know....think this is what shocked me.....I just had no idea.
Im going back to work on Wednesday (teacher) feel like it might be best to try and keep busy in the day and keep talking to my husband in the evening.
I just pray to get caught quick and for everything to be ok next time.....the thought of getting to September (my due date) and not being pregnant really scares me x x x

This happened to me in May 2010 (I had a MMC at 12 weeks, baby had died at 7 weeks), so you have my sympathy. I felt exactly as you did - just wanted to be pregnant again and so empty and sad.

I gave myself a month off from 'trying' though, just I could process what had happened and take a breath. It also helps from a dating POV if you do get pregnant again quickly if you have a period first. My period came exactly 28 days after my D&C and we started trying again the following month. The month after that I got pregnant again and DS2 was born in May 2011 - a year after my MC.

If you got pregnant easily the first time, it could well happen again. And one MC doesn't mean you'll have another - in fact you have a very good chance of carrying your next pregnancy to term. I had a private scan at 8 weeks when I got pregnant again just to check that all was well - it helped me to get through the first trimester and the long wait for that first scan.

Good luck with trying again

Bless you. Did you get a reason for your loss?
I have not only polycystic ovaries, but also an incompetent cervix. I had 12 pregnancy losses (mainly around 8 weeks) but also one at 22 weeks.
I had a D&C for that which failed to get everything . After that, we had fertility treatment taht did not work so resigned ourselves to no children.
I fell pregnant immediately after arriving in a different country.
I had a suture in my cervix at 16 weeks and DD is now almost 11.
Do you have a follow up appt where you can ask specific questions?

Juneau - thank you so much, it gives me such hope that 'it can happen and be ok'...it just scared me so much cus really thought I new my body, and felt soooo pregnant....to find out it had dies was so heartbreaking. I have looked into an 8 week private scan if Im lucky enought to get caught again.....dont think it would be possible for me to wait 12 weeks without one! I hope I get a happy ending too.

Ripsishere - So sorry for what you have been through. Your message confirmed what I already thought, I really feel I need a doc appointment to chat things through. As far as Im aware there were no reasons for the MC.....but lovely as all the staff were, they were very busy and I was out of it on drugs....so have come away feeling a bit confused.....need to get a doctors note for work so hopefully I will be able to chat things through then....I hope all works out for you xxxxxx

I'm fine. My breeding days are long gone.

Hi allchik,

My story is very much like juneau, I had a MMC in May last year. I was convinced that was it, that my chance was gone and was very sad and desperate in the days and weeks afterwards. I had an ERPC and then we started trying again after my next AF (which came 29 days after my ERPC). We used OPKs so I knew when I ovulated and I got pregnant that month! I'm now 37 weeks.

I know of lots of people who have got pregnant very quickly, it's quite common after miscarriage to get pregnant in the first few months. If you go on the Conception boards there are a couple of threads for people TTC after MC, lots of the posters are now pregnant.

It WILL happen.

Thankyou,so lovely to hear such good news.If I think sensible I kinda know I will get caught again,but also know i will b so,so scared of it dying!I know that sounds so morbid!...the mmc just shocked me so much!Ive never been regular with my periods,so dnt know how long it wijl take,might buy sum cheap p tests to check im testing neg,then hopefulky can try again xx

Hi allchik, so sorry to hear of your loss, i know what you are going through as my scan at the start of Jan showed the baby had died at 7 weeks despite the fact that I still had all the pregnancy symptoms.

I had an ERPC a couple of days after the scan and then DH and I started TTC again about 2-3 weeks after that. We were told to wait for AF (which we ignored) but only for dating purposes, consultant said otherwise fine to try again as soon as any bleeding had stopped and I had heard the chances of conceiving were much higher soon after an MC.

Last time it took me 5 months to conceive, this time I got pregnant the first time we did the deed post op! I believe i concieved on Day 19 after ERPC, now just over 6 weeks and don't want to really believe it is real just yet in the case the same thing happens again. DH also won't really talk about it as neither of us wants to get our hopes us again in case we have to go through the same heartbreak at the scan.

At least we are proof that you can get pg again quickly following a MMC and the consultant did tell us we are at no more risk of MC the 2nd time than anyone else so fingers crossed but I totally understand why you would be so worried. I can't really plan for this one until I see the baby is ok at the scan as it was so hard unplanning everything last time and accepting it wasn't going to happen.

Hope your recovery is going well and I'm sure will get pregnant again quickly if this is what you want :)

Redbird I can imagine the complete elation and terror you are feeling! I really hope all goes perfectly xxx

I had a D&C 13 yrs ago due to a MMC at 13 weeks (baby had died at 8 weeks). I've since gone on and had 4 more children, the first being conceived 9 mths after my D&C.

Sorry to hear of your loss :(

January 2011 I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and I thought it was the end of the world. January 2012 I gave birth to my second daughter who is now 7 weeks old. Add me to the list of people for whom it all works out in the end. I hope you'll be joining us soon. Take care x