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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Such anger

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Sazbrilla · 25/02/2012 00:04

After 2mc I still find myself very angry and frustrated with the world for taking my angels away from me. I just constantly want to scream and shout and cry and throw things. I know this won't change anything but I have so much anger when people have mc and there are careless people getting pregnant every day and some having abortions coz they don't want a baby. I read a post on another site where someone told a girl that they were only jealous coz they couldn't have kids. The person who said this was a mum of 4 to a woman who has had a number of mcs. I can't believe how selfish and insensitive people can be. I would give my own life just to have my babies here. Just to hold them for an hour. And there are people like that in this world? What kind of world do we live in!!!!!! Sorry rant over now

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CocoPopsAddict · 25/02/2012 22:01

Hi,

Didn't want your post to go unanswered.

I understand what you mean. It is so hard when life deals you such a blow, and it feels so unfair. Some people seem to take having children so much for granted.

I can't get my head round the fact that I've just had a miscarriage. The baby I thought we would have is just...gone.

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Sazbrilla · 25/02/2012 23:07

Thanks coco. It's just such a horrible thing to happen. And yet I personally know someone who got pregnant just to "save" her relationship. That didn't happen. Some people use children as tools but then the people who really want to have children end up going through stuff like this. sorry for ranting and I'm really sorry for your loss. X x

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InsomniaQueen · 25/02/2012 23:18

I think every woman on here who has had a loss (MC, MMC, late loss) would fully agree with you. After I MC'd I walked around the supermarket wanting to shake women i saw with babies and say "how did you do it? Where did I go wrong?" it wouldn't have made any difference or helped my mental state but that was where I was at that time.

I found talking to other women (on here) who had been through the same thing so helpful, it showed me that my feelings of anger, frustration, guilt ect were totally normal and that the bitterness at other people's 'announcements' didn't make us bad people it just made us human.

I'm very sorry to hear about your losses and hope that things will happen for you in the near future. Xxx

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Sazbrilla · 01/03/2012 23:42

Thank you. Just struggling to control the anger at the minute. X

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satinandsilk · 05/03/2012 21:22

sasbrilla i really understand what you're going through, but please don't lose hope. Unless someone has found a good reason for your miscarriages, there's every chance you'll be able to have a baby eventually. I know how it feels - the misery, fear and uncertainty just rips you apart. Each time you lose one the stakes get higher. I lost four in a row - then finally I had my little girl. She's 14 months old now, and all the more precious for everything that happened. Hang in there.

MyLittleMiracle · 05/03/2012 21:29

Your angels are on your shoulder, watching and guiding you. Its so hard. I lost two to missed miscarriages, the first i lost six years ago come july, and would have been five last boxing day, the second i lost over three and a half years ago, and would be 3 on march 26th. I havent forgotten them, and it still hurts and i still sometimes wonder what if, and why. Unfortuantely these are answers no one can give to you. I now have a healthy little boy aged two come june. It doesnt mean i forgot the two i lost, junior and littley.

It will happen and when it does, the two you lost will be there with you, watching you and guiding you. I miss the two i lost, but they are still in my heart and that is all that matters. Talking about them helps, i promise it does.

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Sazbrilla · 07/03/2012 23:06

Thank you both for your success stories. I'm just finding it hard to believe that I can/ will have a baby one day. The fear is stopping me at the minute. I would be completely devestated if I lost another and don't think I would be able to go one trying to conceive. It hurts all the time and I'm just trying to get past that stage at the minute. Thanks again all of you xx

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MyLittleMiracle · 07/03/2012 23:13

I felt like that when expecting my little one, he wasnt even bump until 16 weeks, and even then i didnt name him until he was born and every time i didnt feel him move for a while i would poke my belly (probably waking him) just to make sure he was still alright.

It gets easier with time. You learn to live with the pain, but you never forget. My middle pregnancy, littley would have been three on march 26th and for some reason the first was due on 26th december and i had my first midwives appointment on teh 26th for her, adn teh second was due on 26th march and i missed miscarriage on August 26th, so i was so scared that the bump would be due on 26th, he wasnt though, he was due on 17th, and that immediately made me feel like it was a good omen.

I hope you manage a healthy, happy pregancy sometime soon.
x

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Sazbrilla · 10/03/2012 21:27

Thank you. So do I. X

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sunshinealwaysfollowstherain · 17/03/2012 19:56

How are you Sazbrilla?

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Sazbrilla · 20/03/2012 03:11

Was feeling better but just found out an old school friend I have on Facebook is pregnant so more baby things. Thanks for asking sunshine. Plus partners ex (from a long time ago) is going through social services. They taking her kids off her (2 of her 3) but leaving her youngest ( a few months old) with her. The sad thing is she doesn't seem to care. That's terrible.

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