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It's over...MMC at 12w (no growth since 6w)

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CestMoi · 12/02/2012 22:01

It was horrendous, but at least it's done. I'm a bit annoyed with the hospital. They tried to explain to me what it was that I'd go through under conservative management after the first scan which showed a 6w embryo at 11w. This was apparently what I had opted for but in truth I wasn't given any other choice. I was told that I'd pass tissue. What I wasn't told was that it would be placenta like tissue (I have children already, I've know what it's like) due to the fact I should have been nearly 12w pregnant yet my body hadn't realised there was no baby beyond 6w so everything had kept growing. I didn't know this until a friend who'd been through similar at 14w told me.

I also passed the fully intact sac, all at home, alone. I ended up in hospital due to blood loss as my cervix became partially blocked as I was miscarrying. The hospital didn't do much apart from manually clear the blockage (unbelievably painful and undignified) then monitored blood loss and put me on a drip overnight. They told me to go home and continue with conservative management the next morning. On my discharge notes it says that's what I opted for, but I wasn't given a choice. I passed more placenta yesterday. Hopefully that's it now. I am heartbroken; I want my baby back. My head is like cotton wool today. I know it will get better with time, but I just feel so numb right now. I don't know what to do.

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5babyangels · 12/02/2012 23:05

Oh you poor poor lady! it's just not fair! Don't know i've got the right words for you just didn't want you to feel alone! The NHS is in such turmoil especially it would seem the womens health side of things anyway! The problem is womens health is paramount to their emotions and it makes it so much harder! The sensible thing to do would be to write a letter of complaint! But I expect at the moment that is the last thing you feel like doing. Give yourself some time. I've miscarried after having 4 healthy children and I was totally deverstated. Noone understood it as I had children and I should be greatful for that (well of course I was), but didn't seem to take the pain away from loosing another. Of course you love your children, all of them including the one youve lost. Take care and don't over do it! Get yourself back to hosp if you think you need extra help even if you dont feel like it xxxx

5babyangels · 13/02/2012 18:50

Was thinking about you today remembering how awful life can be sometimes. I hope you're just about ok physically anyway xxx

Quenelle · 14/02/2012 14:51

I'm sorry for what you've been through CestMoi. I had the same experience at 12 weeks, although I was given the choice of an ERPC and then it happened naturally at home before the surgery could take place.

It is a very, very sad thing to happen. I do hope you have someone there to support and comfort you at the moment.

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