I had two missed miscarriages,

[EllenandBump]

I lost two babies, both between 8 and 9 weeks and both i had already nicknamed. The eldest would have been 5 on boxing day and youngest would have been 3 in march. I now have a gorgeous 18month old. I have decided i would like a peice of jewellery as a reminder of all my pregnancies. I may have lost the first two, junior and littley, but i want something i can touch when i think of them. I was thinking along the lines of a necklace, one with my little boys finger prints and name on, and two others, one with littley on and one with junior on. Is this inappropriate or will it help me? I still think of them occasionally but this has no impact on my LO life. I cried boxing day in the toilet and the other night, but always out of his sight.

And where would i go to get something like this made?

I think thats so sweet and Im so sorry you lost the dear little ones. xxx Ive been through it too and I know the pain well. In the back of Mother and Baby and Pregnancy and Birth magazines, there is a little section where you can get handmade and silver jewellery keepsakes. I dont know the name of the companies but try looking them up online.

Its not inappropriate its what you want to do and its your business. For some of us a keepsake can really help us to deal with our feelings. Let it out as much as you can and know that its just life's way of doing things. Find peace, I have now x

I have found the peice of jewellery i want to buy myself when i can afford to, it has the birth stone (they should have been) on them and i can have them engraved on front or back. I will i think get one for each of my babies, including my little boy. And i think their names will be on the back. My little boy will go in the middle and the other two either side. Their nicknames junior and littley will go on the back, as will my little boys (bump). And my little boys name will go on the front.

I too have had a few mcs. For Christmas my partner bought me a charm bracelet with s and g, our initials and also with j and t the initials of the nicknames I gave the babies junior and tiny. I find it a great comfort. Like you said just having something to touch when thinking of them or something close. Your babies will always be with you but having something physical to touch will help you to see they are still there with you

Hi. Firstly let me say how sorry I am for your losses. I have a charm bracelet with 3 angel wings on. There are very few people who know about my miscarriages as I never told anyone other than DH. I didn't want anyone knowing about them now so I chose angel wings as I know what they represent and they are important to me but they won't draw attention so I won't be asked and have to explain. I also have 3 little angel tree decorations at Christmas that again, I know what they signify and my babies are with us without people asking what specific decs are for. I think what you have thought up is a lovely idea and if it helps I think you should def go ahead. It's lovely to have something to physically touch when you think of them.

I think that is a lovely idea

I had two miscarriages before I got my children, so I think you should do what helps you x

Ellen, could you link the the jewellery please? I also had two missed m/cs in 2006 (first one twins, 2nd a singleton) and now have two boys. Would love to get something similar.

Thank you x

I am not really very good at links, but this is the web address (attempted t link too, so a gold star for me IF it works) www.lifetimemothers.com/prodinfo.asp?number=397400, this website does do other designs though too.

I am hoping that although it will be expensive, i will find peace. My first miscarriage will be to the left, my little boy in the middle and my second miscarriage on the right. My little ones name will be on the front, and the three nicknames on the back, junior, bump and littley. Its a way hopefully of finding peace with myself. I hope this will help you to also

Thank you x

That sounds like a lovely idea Ellen, I hope it does help you find peace. Of course you love and think of your lost ones, I won't ever forget mine and don't want to either.

I wanted to let you know how much hope your post has given me. I've just had my second mmc and whilst I'm sure we're all aware "how common mc is" I was under the impression a mmc was a rare event and extremely unlikely to happen twice. After the second I've become convinced there is something wrong with me and to hear you've had a lovely little one after the same gives me a lot of hope for the future. thank you xx