iv had a silent misscarrage

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i should be 16+3 today (my birthday too) had a tiny bit of blood thismorning when i went to the toiley
went to hospital had a doctor try to find a heartbeat nothint he did a ultrasound scan said he was going to get a sonographer to scan me she did and i was told the baby stoppen growing at around 13 weeks and there was no heartbeat
iv go to go in tomorrow morning to have a pill then go back saturday morning for more pills and to pass the feotus
im really scared about whats going to happen and how much it will hurt ect
please tell me it will be ok x

I am really sorry that this has happened. I am not sure what it will be like, I has 2 mc earlier than this, someone who know more will be along soon. Just did not want your post to go unanswered.

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I haven't experienced this but didn't want to read and not reply. I am so sorry about what has happened and can't imagine how your feeling. I'm sure someone will be on soon who will give you some advice on what will happen tomorow. Again so sorry for your tragic loss X

so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a missed misscarriage a couple of weeks ago, earlier than you so not sure about your situation. I miscarried a lot naturally, went to hospital for pain relief, had gas and air that helped. Hadn't passed it all so had the pill, was more scared of pain than anything and it didn't hurt anywhere near as much as i'd feared, just period pain. i told the nurse i was scared and she said they could get more and more pain relief as i needed, ended up just with paracetamol. i would advise to talk to staff about what you are feeling and what you need. thinking of you and hope you feel as supported as i did by mums net, it's an amazing resource that kept me sane through this upsetting time. i've been amazed by peoples strength, women can cope through hellish situations. xxxx

thank you for your replys
i was 13 weeks when the feotus died i cand have a d+c as they said it will be too much trauma on my cervix
do you think they will be able to tell me the sex of the baby?
and what happens to the feotus? can i have a memoral or something?

hi, i'm afraid i have no idea about your sex question, but i would talk to someone first about all you want to know, be honest with the staff, i'm sure they've had all questions before and it can really help i think with understanding and moving on as best you can.

at our hospital there is a memorial book you can write in, also they have an annual memorial service and anyone can attend and think about their loss, also there is a garden at the hospital where i work, just a bit of space to reflect i think, again, make sure you ask all the questions you need and i would suggest keep using this site, i have found it amazing.
hugs.
x

thank you huga
i went this morning and had another scan just to be sure the doctor couldn't tell the sex but the nurse said they can look when it passes
they said i can have a hospital cremation where the baby will be sent to the local crematorium
i had the 1st pill this morning and iv got to go back Saturday for the next lot of pills and to pass the fetus
iv been having cramps and some bleeding and they said to go back if it gets too painfull or i start passing clots x

hi there, how you doing today??